K-Y Jelly?

LegacyUser

hello all,
hope this doesnt sound like a totally stupid question,but i am newish to the world of sex.so i need a small bit of advice.iv been with my girlfriend now for 2months and things are really beginning to hotten up in the bedroom..usually lots of foreplay, but the thing is..when shes doing her "handywork" on me..its really sore!its been a few hours now since we did anything,and my manhood is still suffering. as she was doing it,i groaned to try to give the hint im in pain,but she must have taken it that i was enjoying the manhood grinding! iv heard me mates going on about "lube" so im wondering can KY jelly be used for handjob purposes or when is it mainly used?
also, the last girl i was with tended to do the job on herself as she lay next to me, which both suited me fine and i found to be very arousing, but this new girl doesnt seem to do that at all.should i encourage her or not?what the norm ladies?cos im all for learning from the master so to speak!
one last thing,kind of didnt use protection last night,very stupid of me i know, but girlfriend says shes on the pill. how bulletproof is the pill in reality?lots of questions there guys,so thanks for any help!

Nevyn

Yes ky jelly is lubricant used for sex yes that and most other sex lubes can be used while giving a hand job.

Not every woman will masterbate infront of her partner.

The oral contraceptive pill is not 100%
perfect use it is 99.7%0.3% effective.
Typical use it is 92% effective.

IF you didn't use a condom then you have the possiblity of becoming infected with a range of sti and hiv.

I suggest you educate your self as much as possible and not take such risks with your health.

http://www.ifpa.ie/eng/Info/Fact-sheets/Combined-Contraceptive-Pill
http://www.ifpa.ie/eng/Info/Fact-sheets/Sexually-Transmitted-Infection

LegacyUser

thank you kindly for the links.im usually more careful..as in i dont hop into bed with people very often.i might try gettin my lube on and see how that goes!

LegacyUser

You should tell her straight out that she's hurting you! Open and honest communication in a relationship and certainly in the bedroom if your manhood is on the line is the best approach! The only way to have a satisfying sex life with your partner is to talk talk talk, say what you like and what you don't like, and ask lots of questions, otherwise both of you will just continue fumbling, probably painfully, which is no fun for anyone!!

Taltos

Next time just tell her.

She is not psychic and has to rely on your guidance...
You never know she might be dying to tell you stuff too but is too embarrased.
This open talking could open up whole new or old avenues for you..

evogirl

just a tip on lube, try Durex Tingle.;)

trio

Also, OP bear in mind that if a woman is on antibiotics it can decrease effectiveness of the pill. Doctors often tell women to use additional contraception when they go on certain antibiotics.

And also if she vomits that can decrease effectiveness. Also if she has diarrehea.

And finally, a lot of women take it last thing before going to bed at night. If she goes out for the evening with you, gets plastered and falls into bed with you and you do the deed and she hasn't yet taken it....

I'd use condoms. I know at least two girls who got pregnant just after forgetting to take it one day.

Many women don't want to masturbate in front of a partner. If she doesn't feel like doing it, don't push it. She's not uptight. It's just two different girls. She might like doing other stuff that your previous gf wouldn't have been mad on.

Recon

Try here for some very good, high quality lube. A little expensive but worth every penny. Go for the 250ml bottle, should last you a good while.

Miss Fluff

She's not Mystic Meg, if she is hurting you, you have to tell her, Just do so in a gentle way so it's not a put down. When she's doing it how you like it just be vocal about it and she'll get the message.

Greenmachine

I have heard everything now.

beertons

Or try www.smartpaddy.ie

Zaph

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