The great text debate

LegacyUser

Apologies in advance as this will seem totally trivial but important to me
Was out sat night and met a great guy so bit of chatting, flirting, end of night kiss etc and he asked for my number. He texted me saturday night basically great to meet you, hope you get home ok etc. All good; except haven't heard from him since then? Should I contact him or will I assume he's playing it cool till tueday/wednesday??

Moomoo1

silly question: have you replied to his text?

LegacyUser

haha - yes! I waited till I got home just to say I was home safe!

LegacyUser

There's a similar thread on here somewhere from what might be your guy LOL

Yes text him...cant do any harm ????

Moomoo1

in that case I would sit and wait

elle

I would text him, maybe give it a day or two if it was only saturday you met him. You could just say something like like had a nice time the other night wondering if you'd fancy meeting up again. Sure if he doesn't write back so be it but what have u to lose?

myusernameis

i'd wait it out, you last replied so the ball is in his court but sure thats only what i think! Sure go for it, if you feel you should! good luck!

CraggyIslander

lemme get this straight, you met, he txt'd you and you txt'd him back and now you're wondering who should txt next?

Stop playing games (balls in whos court? wtf?) just ring him or text him and ask him out directly

BDR

Send him a text maybe Wednesday night asking him if he's going to be around this weekend, if he replies make plans to meet up.

Wouldn't worry too much though, it's only Monday night, give him a chance.

[Jackass]

How about you don't bother with the fu*king games and just text or call him if you want to talk to him?? Or don't bother with people who want to "play it cool".

I can never understand this sh*t!! Everyone makes it so complicated for themselves and prospective partners!! The best "game" to play is do whatever you want, and if they're into it, then great, and if not, then don't waste your time trying to play along and if you need to play games to get it right, do you think it's going to be something worthwhile in the end?

Yunalesca

I see this was posted yesterday... any luck? Did you text him or hear from him at all?



Also you should read 'He's just not that into you.'
You'll either gain inner peace or be even more confused : D

lostinlimerick

a simple hi how are you?

always works and doesnt seem too bad to text.

pookie82

[Jackass] wrote: »

How about you don't bother with the fu*king games and just text or call him if you want to talk to him?? Or don't bother with people who want to "play it cool".

I can never understand this sh*t!! Everyone makes it so complicated for themselves and prospective partners!! The best "game" to play is do whatever you want, and if they're into it, then great, and if not, then don't waste your time trying to play along and if you need to play games to get it right, do you think it's going to be something worthwhile in the end?

Couldn't agree more. When I met my current OH we were texting frequently immediately, and neither or us played any games or hid our feelings to seem cool or unattainable. (Still together almost 3 years later so we did sth right). Stupid behaviour for adults to engage in tbh. Any self respecting person will just go for it, put it out there, be honest, and hope the best comes of it.

If not, you've lost very little.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all replies ...I really appreciate it. Decided to hold off until closer to the weekend and then if haven't heard just try arrange something for maybe sunday or next week.

Reading over this I see how trivial it seems! Ha ha!