Is this unusual or what?

Partizan

I was back in the home country the weekend (Waterford) and on Saturday night went out and had a blast with good friends of mine. I met old friends that I hadnt seen in years and it added to an enjoyable night. Catching up on gossip, old times etc.

Anyway afterwards I was in the chipper and got talking to a nice girl. Was talking to her for about 15-20 minutes (lots in common, studied the same university degree) and as she was leaving, I asked her straight out for her number. She agreed gave it to me and she left. When I got back home about 20 minutes later, I sent her a text "safe home and call you during the week". I'm thinking of leaving it to call her until Thursday or Friday as i'm flat out here at work. What do you guys and girls think? Was it a bit sudden and desperate sounding? I'm a totally laid back guy just hope i made the right impression.

partyguinness

Did she reply back?

Partizan

partyguinness wrote: »

Did she reply back?

No she didnt. I wouldnt be too bothered anyway whether she did or not.

partyguinness

Partizan wrote: »

No she didnt. I wouldnt be too bothered anyway whether she did or not.

To be honest I would be, personally (and this is the way I have played it in the past with 100% success) I would text her again on Thursday to see what she is doing for the weekend. Dont phone her without her replying back.

For example, I had a girl before and I did all the initial chasing i.e. first to text etc. She would always wait 2-3 hours before replying back and then 30 min exactly between each reply thereafter...now I coped onto this fairly quickly and I knew that was the way she wanted to play it.

You need to get a vibe/feeling off her first before phoning her. Afterall maybe she was too polite to not give you her number. You need to get the 'feel' for the situation or else you will come across to eager and desperate IMO (women like men do not like that)

Partizan

If she didnt want to give me her number she would have gave me the boyfriend excuse. What are you saying here is that I should delete her number and forget about it. Its a strange one and it just happened out of the blue.

Wouldnt it be better to call her instead of texting? Its more personal. We got on well and if I hadn't have asked her number I would be regretting it now. Either way i'll find out so enough.

partyguinness

Partizan wrote: »

If she didnt want to give me her number she would have gave me the boyfriend excuse. What are you saying here is that I should delete her number and forget about it. Its a strange one and it just happened out of the blue.

Wouldnt it be better to call her instead of texting? Its more personal.

Oh no I am saying that at all.

All I am saying is send another text with a direct question so she has to answer and if she replies back then go for it by all means ring her the following night.

If the roles were reversed would you have replied back to her text saying "safe home" just to say "cheers speak later" or something along does lines?

I know it's hard but you must show some restraint/patience. It will be worth it (on the basis she is interested of course ).

Partizan

Thanks for the advice. I'll text her Wednesday evening and then follow up with a phone call the following night (on the basis that she replies).

Well I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I have had bad luck when it comes to women lately so i'm due a lucky break. Here's hoping.

partyguinness

Best of luck with it...remember its just my opinion and may not work for everyone..:cool:

puglover

I wouldn't be too bothered about her not texting back at that hour of the morning after a night out.

Don't analyse so much, give her a call. If she is interested it's not going to matter when you do it, she'll be happy to hear from you. If she's not, then she'll let you know and you'll have lost nothing!

insert-gear

I would definitely go for a text first off with the direct question. Gives her a chance to collect her thoughts and stuff. As a girl, I would prefer to get a text than a call from someone i've only just met, less awkward for one.

Partizan

Thanks guys. I'll text her on Wednesday. Its plenty of time from last weekend and gives her space and time to collect thoughts and plan herself.

I'll keep you updated.

VaioCruiser

Partizan wrote: »

Was it a bit sudden and desperate sounding?

I think it shows you know how to grasp the moment, and that is so important in life. So many people let things slide and miss out of opportunities. Well done to you !!

As for following it up ... what have you to lose ? a bit of pride ? a bit of embarrassment ? in other words NOTHING

All the best.

partyguinness

VaioCruiser wrote: »

I think it shows you know how to grasp the moment, and that is so important in life. So many people let things slide and miss out of opportunities. Well done to you !!

As for following it up ... what have you to lose ? a bit of pride ? a bit of embarrassment ? in other words NOTHING

All the best.

Nothing to lose..correct BUT lots to gain by taking a small step back playing his cards right.

Very easy to make a balls of it by coming on to strong.

Patience, patience, patience is key here. Only taking about a few days here not months or years.

Partizan

Hi guys,

just an update Its Wednesday so I decided to text her. I text her this morning around 11am at my coffee break asking her straight out if she wanted to meet up this weekend for drinks. Cue the whole day and no reply. I rang her just now and yep no reply.

I have thus deleted her number and wont bother with this time waster again.

ah well better luck next time

What is it with Irish girls and all the mind games the employ? I seem to get on alot better with foreign girls and score more regularly then native birds.

I would give my right arm to be with an Irish one

tbh

Partizan wrote: »

ah well better luck next time

What is it with Irish girls and all the mind games the employ? I seem to get on alot better with foreign girls and score more regularly then native birds.

I would give my right arm to be with an Irish one

unlucky man. It's just easier to ignore a problem (no offense!) and hope it'll go away than to say to someone face to face that you don't want to date them. It's a shame, but the right thing to do is usually the harder option..anyway, what goes around, in my experience, comes around.

MIN2511

Partizan wrote: »

Hi guys,

just an update Its Wednesday so I decided to text her. I text her this morning around 11am at my coffee break asking her straight out if she wanted to meet up this weekend for drinks. Cue the whole day and no reply. I rang her just now and yep no reply.

I have thus deleted her number and wont bother with this time waster again.

ah well better luck next time

What is it with Irish girls and all the mind games the employ? I seem to get on alot better with foreign girls and score more regularly then native birds.

I would give my right arm to be with an Irish one

Dude, it's not just women it's men as well....

I dunno but i wouldn't give you my number if i didn't want you to ring/text me...

Ah well upwards and onwards

partyguinness

Sorry to hear that man...you win some you lose some as they say...sure its all part of the game.:)

Oh The Humanity

Partizan wrote: »

Hi guys,

just an update Its Wednesday so I decided to text her. I text her this morning around 11am at my coffee break asking her straight out if she wanted to meet up this weekend for drinks. Cue the whole day and no reply. I rang her just now and yep no reply.

I have thus deleted her number and wont bother with this time waster again.

ah well better luck next time

What is it with Irish girls and all the mind games the employ? I seem to get on alot better with foreign girls and score more regularly then native birds.

I would give my right arm to be with an Irish one

Well her loss. I wish more Irish guys were like you and straight up show they are interested instead of playing all these stupid games.

I really really like it when a man shows he is interested and is direct (without being pushy of course) but men like that are few and far between.

Stay as you are and dont change. You will meet a nice girl who isn't playing games soon.

Partizan

Cheers for the advice. Thats the second time its happened in the last 2 months. I just want a mature, respectful and honest woman without the head wrecking mind games. Is that not too much to ask?

and in case you wonder, I aint looking for Angeline Jolie types.

Sin1981

You know there are hundreds of "mature, respectful and honest", girls around and they feel the same as you, ie. think 'where the hell are all the mature respectful, and honest men?'. I suppose it's a matter of waiting for the day it's mean't to happen and you meet. Sometimes, the most decent guys/girls are the ones who are less conspicuous in a bar, club or wherever. These are the ones you want, but are probably the ones who are least likely to make themselves known, either because they're slightly more reserved, or don't overdo their appearance etc to get noticed like the gobshtes do!
everyones says it: join club,class or something you're interested and it might help.:)

LimeFruitGum

Aw, that is a bummer OP.

But on behalf of nice Irish women, please don't give up! xx