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  • 28-06-2009 4:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I broke up with my girlfriend on Thursday. Thought that was it. Really cut up over it and didn't want to break up but at the time, felt i'd no choice.

    Anyway, we are meeting tomorrow to try and sort it out. The thing is, I kissed another girl in the nightclub on Friday night. Do I tell my girlfriend this? I'd never cheat on her. But even though we were broken up at the time, I still feel so guilty.

    I like to have a clear conscience and am a very honest guy. But i'm afraid she'll go mental over this. What do I do? Please help.


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    No don't tell her, you are broken up and if you are looking to get back together it will only muddy the waters.


  • #3
    Cecil Mor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 296 ✭✭Cecil Mor


    Cop yerself on Man, it's not like ya gave 'er a scutching is it?!!


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yeah I know. But i've never had any secrets from her before. It just feels wrong. And the only reason I kissed that other girl was because I thought we definitely wouldn't get back together. I did it to make myself feel better. Well, it didn't work.

    Considering we'd only broken up a matter of hours before this happened, i dunno. I just feel like I have cheated or something.

    She'd go mad if I told her, yeah?


  • #5
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    If there is a chance she might find out then tell her.. You didnt cheat so other than that you dont need to upset her.


  • #6
    MissyN
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 239 ✭✭MissyN


    Don't tell her, no way. Just put it out of your mind like it never happened and forget about it.


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  • #7
    Queencake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 176 ✭✭Queencake


    SarahSassy wrote: »
    If there is a chance she might find out then tell her.. You didnt cheat so other than that you dont need to upset her.

    I agree. If you think it'll get back to her - tell her. Otherwise don't. You were broken up.

    On a side note - I'd suggest you'd look at why you kissed another girl so soon after breaking up with your gf.


  • #8
    Adamisconfused
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 268 ✭✭Adamisconfused


    If you do tell her then DON’T do it when you meet up tomorrow. Leave it a while.


    Even though you were technically single and I usually regard a kiss as relatively meaningless, I’d understand your GF seeing such action in a negative light. It’s as if you forgot about her in a shot.
    Then again, you should ask yourself whether you deserve to know what she did this weekend. If you do then you should tell her what you did. No point being a hypocrite.


  • #9
    Sin1981
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 181 ✭✭Sin1981


    Was this a drunken kiss and meaningless? If Yes, then no
    way should you tell her.. you were single when you kissed this other one, so you are not obliged to tell her, and like others have said it will only upset her... ruin the whole 'working tru stuff' thing.
    you'll be fine. CHill!!!


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