Seeing someone?

LegacyUser

sorry if this is a bit ranty, any advice/ideas appreciated. Not sure what I am looking for just took a bit of a break from dating and just is my first 'proper' thing since!

Seeing a guy about 2 mths now. When we first got together (about a week after we first went out) he was out with the lads and text me telling me that he wasn't after anything serious and the lads told him he should tell me this (I told him I thought it was early to be saying this as we were only getting to know each other as far as i was concerned and I didnt think we had to say how we felt but i appreciated his honesty) He immediately changed tellin me he didn't mean it just the lads told him he should say that and he looked forward to seeing me and even tho it was early days he was mad about me...called me the next day to make sure i wasn't gonna stop seeing him over what he said.

We see each other a couple times a week, talk/text most days - I am trying to take it as it comes. Right now I am just enjoying getting to know him. Am pretty sure he is not using me for sex, have stayed over and just hung out. Stayed over last saturday and when i went to go home on sunday evening he asked me to stay just so he could sleep beside me.

Anyway even though I hadn't really thought much into it , have just been enjoying our dates and hanging out a friend asked me today what we were and I actually don't know. He has cooked for me, introduced me to housemates and done lots of little cute things. But how or when do u go from seeing someone to being a gf? I know it is different for everyone and I don't want to rock things by bringing it up, would prefer if he did it first but it just got me thinking. I enjoy this fun getting to know each other stage but at the same time I would like to be in the relaxed know where I stand stage too

Eun

ah the complications of that stage! From little experience ive had it all just happened, could never really pint point out where we started. Well hes mad about you so id say hes bound to bring it up soon enough.

All the best

SarahSassy

If the lads told him to put his hand in the fire would he??? He said he doesnt want anything serious so play him at his own game. Keep dating others and dont put your eggs into one basket until he knows what he wants... Keep your options open and to be fair / open let him know you are doing so.

PCPhoto

SarahSassy wrote: »

If the lads told him to put his hand in the fire would he??? He said he doesnt want anything serious so play him at his own game. Keep dating others and dont put your eggs into one basket until he knows what he wants... Keep your options open and to be fair / open let him know you are doing so.

they have been "meeting up" for 2 months .... I think its time to say you are in a relationship .... how did he introduce you to his housemates/friends .... "hey everyone ...this is GF0909 (Insert real name)"

SarahSassy

PCPhoto wrote: »

they have been "meeting up" for 2 months ....

Oh yeah. Oops. OP ignore the above post.