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How do i get over it?

  • 25-06-2009 10:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    how do i get over someone? i have tried for ages but i still think of him. i think of him alot and hate the thought of him with other women. he loves me but not as much as before. he now wants no contact. any advice appreciated :)


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  • #2
    Cleopatra12
    Closed Accounts Posts: 170 ✭✭Cleopatra12


    ok, going to sound blunt, but he said he wants no contact... So do this! Leave him alone, every time you feel the need to contact him, think about how crap you feel whan he does not reply, trust me this will stop you txting.... scratching that inital itch to contact him is great, but dont, cos you will feel the worse for it!

    He has told you what he wants. You ahve to respect that. Its hard to get over someone, and there s no deficed lenght of time to get over someone (took me nearly 3 years), but ti will happen.


  • #3
    ogriofa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 353 ✭✭ogriofa


    Its boring but its got teeth... time.

    I went out my ex for 6 months, 7 months later and I still think about her every day. Cant help it.
    Im not going to try to stop thinking about her, Im gonna let it fade in its own time. If I tried to get over her asap Im sure thered be some lingering feelings down the line.

    Be straight with yourself.

    Good luck! :)


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    well basically we are taking time out to see how we feel at the end but if theres a need for this breakup - its not meant to be. so i want be get over him - even though ive tried and failed already :(


  • #5
    Barr
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,023 ✭✭✭Barr


    Its quite hard to move on but eventually you will find that you have. Its best not to maintain contact - it will make it easier in the long run.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    but what can i do when i feel sick to the stomack when i think of him with other people???


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  • #7
    3qsmavrod5twfe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 440 ✭✭3qsmavrod5twfe


    Unregistered wrote: »
    but what can i do when i feel sick to the stomack when i think of him with other people???

    Absolutely nothing. Break all contact as you will only tie yourself in knots and forego your chances of actually meeting anyone else.

    If he told you he loves you still, but not as much as before he is trying to give you a soft landing. This translates as "I care for you because of the experiences we had together but we are over as a couple" Don't confuse the two.

    And don't, for the love of all that is holy, attempt to accidentally on purpose bump into him in places. This behaviour never leads down a good path and and will classify you as unstable. I know you didn't say you were going to but it seemed like a logical progression from where you are if you are in a certain frame of mind.

    Best of luck


  • #8
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I know how you feel. I am in a similar situation. He broke up with me, we are still in love and meet up but its prob not going to work. So I am trying not to think of him and move on. I feel sick to the stomach today too as I know he has been out the last few nights and I havent heard from him. Its horrible. You just have to think, that if he is with someone he doesnt love them, and its the same as if you met a guy in a bar and kissed him, you would have fun but it doesnt change your opinion of your ex or how you feel about them.

    Try to concentrate on other things and be thankful for the experience of loving someone and know that there will be others. Or if its meant to be you will get back together.

    I am trying to take my own advice too. I think jealousy is one of the most horrible of feelings to experience, its sould destroyingso as much as you can put him out of your mind and focus on getting yourself back on track. OR imagine he if he did hook up with someone, she is really annoying and you are way better looking!


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