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When is it too soon to go with some1 else

  • 25-06-2009 1:09am
    #1
    User Named
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    been with gf for 3 years, both in uni in england, i finished last year in Birmingham and moved in with her in Derby in september. We'v always had our rough patches but always got back after a few days. I came home a few monthes ago as i couldnt get anymore work. She came home for a few weeks there about a month ago. We had a bit of a fall out, she said we'd break up.

    Since she went away 2 weeks ago, we been txting,ringing, on yahoo every day r second day. We got all emotional with each other this day last week, and i rang her drunk on sunday night and the whole conversation was how i loved her and couldnt wait for her to get home.

    Got an email from her today saying she had to tell me something, i knew straight away what it was and couldnt believe it. I know we were broken up but i thought we'd be grand, shes home for the summer next thurs.

    Shes went with some 1 two weeks after a three year relationship, it feel like a total waste. All day iv felt so sick and cried a few times. She did it on monday night. I just always assumed we'd be grand, we get on so well when things are good (most of the time) but are hateful to each other when fighting.

    The thing is that shes home next week and we live 1 mile from each other, have most of the same friends and go to the same places. Iv never felt so low in my life, i just wanna puke all the time..everything has gone pointless. the two most annoying things are the fact that she did it after two weeks and also i knew once we seen each other next week, it'd fall back into place, not its ruined but i love her so much. A few ****ty months ahead. Im 23, her 20.
    HELP I want to know was it too soon for her to go with some1 else and what would u do?


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  • #2
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    User Named wrote: »
    HELP I want to know was it too soon for her to go with some1 else and what would u do?
    Hi OP, sorry to say this but... you need to forget her for a while. If possible, get away for a bit, if not, make a point of mingling with your friends, doing other stuff, try to stay away from her as much as possible (I know it's difficult). Oh and @your question: not your business, frankly. You shouldn't even care at this point (and again, I know it's difficult, just saying).


  • #3
    Beetlebum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 837 ✭✭✭Beetlebum


    Hey OP,

    My heart goes out to you and I know exactly how you feel. I was with my ex bf for 4 years and he ended things on a Friday evening. On Saturday evening he was with another girl and proceeded to go out with her for 3 months!!! I was devasted, absolutely destroyed by it and I felt it undermined our entire relationship. I never thought I'd be able to forgive him and I never thought I'd feel happiness again.

    It took me almost a year to bounce back fully but I got there in the end. My advice is to surround yourself with good friends, listen to music you love, go out for pints, do things that make you feel good (whatever that may be) and remember that there was life before her and there will be life after her.

    I'm now friends with my ex and I never thought we'd get there. People do seemingly cruel and heartless things sometimes towards the end of a relationship. It's best to move on and let her go.

    Also, you're a young lad, only 23 and she's a young girl. Being in such a long-term relationship at your age is probably not the best idea anyway. There are millions of wicked girls out there for you to meet. Go out with your mates, kiss a few girls and have some fun. You are only young once OP so try not to waste too much time pining over a lost love.

    You will be fine in time, I garuantee you that. I know it hurts and I remember that sick feeling in the pit of my tummy. I used to wake up every morning and my pillow would be wet from me crying in my sleep. I'd listen to Jeff Buckley on the way to work but have to get off the train before town and call in sick because I'd be hysterical. I really was a wreck picturing them together. The worst was when I ran into them in a bar in town. Ouch!

    BUT - I'm friends with him now and the pain has subsided fully. I'm happy again and have had amazing experiences with loads of other guys (that sounds terrible heh heh).

    Chin up OP, you're gonna be alright kiddo


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