First Date

Nervous Wreck

Okay, I have a first date tonight and I'm a bit nervous/weary.... Not really about the date but about..... well I'm 23 and the girl is 29..... I've never been on a date before (always had long term relationships or one-night flings) so it's new to me already, but the fact of going on my first real date with a woman 6 years older than me is quite daunting. I'm a mature, intelligent lad (which often is more an obstacle with the kinda girls I end up with unfortunately) and I'm quite witty but I'm just kinda... I dunno, wondering what the hell we're gonna talk about?!

Any advice on ANY part of the whole night would be appreciated. I'm not really nervous, just eh.... a little lost?

BumbleB

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

Okay, I have a first date tonight and I'm a bit nervous/weary.... Not really about the date but about..... well I'm 23 and the girl is 29..... I've never been on a date before (always had long term relationships or one-night flings) so it's new to me already, but the fact of going on my first real date with a woman 6 years older than me is quite daunting. I'm a mature, intelligent lad (which often is more an obstacle with the kinda girls I end up with unfortunately) and I'm quite witty but I'm just kinda... I dunno, wondering what the hell we're gonna talk about?!

Any advice on ANY part of the whole night would be appreciated. I'm not really nervous, just eh.... a little lost?

Its not really that daunting really ,You think its going to be worse than it is. I went out on a load of dates last year and I learned a lot from them and got very good at the whole process the most important thing is not to get thrown about by silence and it does happen,
. Talk about stuff women like ,like BB ,just talk about stuff that will trigger the imagination.Their dream holiday ,naughty stuff ,but the main thing is just go out and have fun. good luck !!!

chickenhawk

Apt username!!

But seriously don't worry about it. She will be equally as nervous as you. Just let the conversation flow. Think during the day about a few topics that you can bring up if there is a silent gap. That'll save you having to think on your feet and blurting out something she won't like. I'm the same age and have gone out on dates with the same age gap and it's great craic. Use your age as an advantage some people want to feel younger and being energetic etc can help that.

Enjoy it!

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chickenhawk wrote: »

Apt username!!

But seriously don't worry about it. She will be equally as nervous as you. Just let the conversation flow. Think during the day about a few topics that you can bring up if there is a silent gap. That'll save you having to think on your feet and blurting out something she won't like. I'm the same age and have gone out on dates with the same age gap and it's great craic. Use your age as an advantage some people want to feel younger and being energetic etc can help that.

Enjoy it!

If I was 23 and going on a date with a 29 yr old, I'd be nervous, but just think of all the good lovin that could be coming your way.

Bring your pencil case and copybook, school is about to begin!!

petes

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

I dunno, wondering what the hell we're gonna talk about?!

What would you talk about with anyone else? Seriously. You seem to have a decent head on your shoulders from your post. Be yourself, act naturually and I'll come up with a few more cliches in a mo.

Is it just a couple of drinks?

Nervous Wreck

Thanks everyone, some good advice here!

Insurgent wrote: »

Is it just a couple of drinks?

Yep, dunno what kinda place to go though cos she's really active so she might wanna go dancing or something.... Bleh! Sure if we end up getting food, I'll just order the kids meal.

Eun

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

Sure if we end up getting food, I'll just order the kids meal.

Hahaha, thats the spirit :P

LegacyUser

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

Okay, I have a first date tonight and I'm a bit nervous/weary.... Not really about the date but about..... well I'm 23 and the girl is 29..... I've never been on a date before (always had long term relationships or one-night flings) so it's new to me already, but the fact of going on my first real date with a woman 6 years older than me is quite daunting. I'm a mature, intelligent lad (which often is more an obstacle with the kinda girls I end up with unfortunately) and I'm quite witty but I'm just kinda... I dunno, wondering what the hell we're gonna talk about?!

Any advice on ANY part of the whole night would be appreciated. I'm not really nervous, just eh.... a little lost?

Please let us know how ur date goes...as im in a similar situation and have my first ever date on Saturday....arghhh nervous!!!

VaioCruiser

The thing about dates... is to treat them just like going to meet an ordinary person. It's not an interview. It's not a court of law. It's just a chat with a person and you can start with the weather and the traffic and the rugby (!) and the holidays, and rain etc etc etc...

all the best

Nervous Wreck

Unregistered wrote: »

Please let us know how ur date goes...as im in a similar situation and have my first ever date on Saturday....arghhh nervous!!!

Will do. As it turned out, I had to work last night so the date was postponed until tonight. Now I'm nervous.

Liam Byrne

Be yourself; after all, what's the point in trying to be someone you're not ? If you did, and they liked that, then you'd be "found out" sooner or later.

And remember that your date is probably feeling the same as you do!

Finally, while it's nice to meet someone, remember that if they don't like you (or vice versa) it's not the end of the world!

Best of luck!

LegacyUser

How did it go?

Nervous Wreck

In a word: AWESOME.

LegacyUser

Details young man, details!

Nervous Wreck

Haha. Well the age thing came up at one stage. She knew I was younger but didn't know how much younger so she was a liiiiiittle taken aback. But I managed to move the conversation seemlessly forward and we left that behind. That was the only real obstacle though. Apart from that, conversation flowed easily, laughs were had, we kissed and held a bita hands.... Great first date!!!

LegacyUser

Aah how lovely, takes me back to my first date with my OH. Really pleased for you, long may it continue!

How did you meet? You musn't look as young as you are for her to be taken aback.

Nothing wrong with a young piece of flesh!

LegacyUser

Awe so pleased for ya 'nervous wreck'....(though not so nervous anymore eh?! prehaps a name change is in order!)

I've been going out with my OH for two years now (am 23 also) dated people my age and older...but was sooo nervous before all of them! But I just clicked with my fella, I think if ye click ye click and everything will flow, if ye don't then possibile silences to follow lol!

I'm delighted for you though...so when's the next date?!

Rb

Good job OP.

Now just avoid talking about hip replacements and hearing aids, or anything else that would highlight the age gap

Nervous Wreck

Next date is sometime next week, excited for that!

Unregistered wrote: »

How did you meet? You musn't look as young as you are for her to be taken aback.

Haha, harsh! I'm just very mature.