Too many girls

LegacyUser

Really irritated right now. I just want to know if it's normal for a guy to have a friends list with loads of girls he went out with/was with/scored. I just checked out one page of the BF's friend list and on the one page there were 7 or 8 girls he was with. I guess I'm not a member of the 'score all your friends' society so it seems weird to me. Exes are exes. I have one long termer who is still in my friends list but that's it.

Astrogeek

As in a bebo/facebook friends list?

A lot of people simply don't delete people off their friends list and they just stay there.
I don't think it means anything.

It would be different if he was constantly flirting to loads of girls but if they just happen to still be in his friends list I wouldn't worry about it.

LegacyUser

Yeah sorry on Facebook. No, he still talks to them all, they leave comments on his wall etc. I'd feel a bit embarrassed/slutty if I realised I'd been with the last 5 guys to leave a message on my wall but he doesn't seem to think it's strange at all.

Astrogeek

eak, yeah I would feel the same way.

I don't keep in contact with any of my exes, our friendships ended for the same reasons the relationship ended. But that is just me.

Well is he just talking to these girls or flirting?

TheInquisitor

What , your saying people that he had like a one night stand with or just kissed etc? Sure guys couldn't talk to half their female friends if that was the case. Thats completely normal.

LegacyUser

Both. He's scored (kissed) a lot of his friends when he was younger, that doesn't bother me so much. But there's a good 4 or 5 I know he's done more with (oral etc) and that's not counting actual ex-girlfriends. I don't think he's flirting with them, no.

Sinall

I think its just a sign of the times! Everyone becomes "friends" with everyone else on these social networking sites. They can throw up issues that would not have existed in relationships a few years ago though!

To be honest, I personally don't see anything wrong with your boyfriend talking to/leaving comments/receiving comments from girls who he may have been with in the past. It's you he's with now. You can't change his past, no matter how much you worry about it!

It doesn't seem like you are worried about him flirting/cheating on you - more that he was with these girls before he was with you and is still in touch with them?

Nervous Wreck

A quick scan of my own facebook shows me that of my 147 friends, I've kissed 12. Of that 12, I've more than kissed 5, gone out with 3 and slept with 3. There's only one that I don't talk to and the rest are still my mates. It's not actually a big deal when the feelings are no longer there so.... you should probably just get over it.

nmesisca

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Really irritated right now. I just want to know if it's normal for a guy to have a friends list with loads of girls he went out with/was with/scored. I just checked out one page of the BF's friend list and on the one page there were 7 or 8 girls he was with. I guess I'm not a member of the 'score all your friends' society so it seems weird to me. Exes are exes. I have one long termer who is still in my friends list but that's it.

im not part of any social networking site but, coming from a foreign country, every time I am back home I make a point of saying hello to all my friends. this includes at least 2 or 3 of my ex gf.
I love them to bits (as a friend now) and what we had when we were together was great. things change though and life brings people away from each other. but i can never understand if you had a meaningful relationship with them it cant be all about being partners. it has to be about friendship as well. so the way i see it is, its two different things.
I m not going to drop friendships like that because my actual partner is jaelous. I d rather walk away from the relationship.