What's going on in his head

LegacyUser

I met a man a while ago who made it quite clear that all he wanted was a f*ckbuddy & nothing else. I wasnt really interested but he kept pursuing me until I agreed (tbh I was curious about the whole f*ckbuddy thing & if it could work). We slept together a few times but I decided that scenario wasnt for me so texted him goodbye, deleted his number and thought that was it.

However since then, he's been texting me at least once a week, just about everyday things (not the suggestive ones I was getting previously), but it's limited to one or two texts and then nothing else. He doesnt seem interested in developing them any further into a conversation or in meeting up. I've been replying to him up to now as I suppose I thought that he might be interested in a relationship with me if he was still texting, however I've realised it's going nowhere.

My question why is he still texting me? Is it just to massage his ego & see if I'll still reply to him, is it politeness or what? I'm not going to reply to him any more but I'd really love peoples opinions on what is going on in his head!

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

I met a man a while ago who made it quite clear that all he wanted was a f*ckbuddy & nothing else. I wasnt really interested but he kept pursuing me until I agreed (tbh I was curious about the whole f*ckbuddy thing & if it could work). We slept together a few times but I decided that scenario wasnt for me so texted him goodbye, deleted his number and thought that was it.

However since then, he's been texting me at least once a week, just about everyday things (not the suggestive ones I was getting previously), but it's limited to one or two texts and then nothing else. He doesnt seem interested in developing them any further into a conversation or in meeting up. I've been replying to him up to now as I suppose I thought that he might be interested in a relationship with me if he was still texting, however I've realised it's going nowhere.

My question why is he still texting me? Is it just to massage his ego & see if I'll still reply to him, is it politeness or what? I'm not going to reply to him any more but I'd really love peoples opinions on what is going on in his head!

in my personal experience, he does it just to be able to keep in contact with you in case you change your mind and want to hook up (sexually again).
i had a guy do this (lol any chance your guy is 35 and in dublin??) and even though i told him i wasn't interested anymore he'd always send along these 'how are you texts'....he was trying to wear me down in the hopes that i would be desperate for sex and agree to meet him again. i can almost guarantee that's what's going on here.

if you're truly not interested in having sex with him again, request, quite earnestly that he delete your number and never contact you again.

sachamama

just forget about him. who knows whats going on in his head? does it really matter? don't reply to his texts and he will move on.
otherwise you can twist yourself into a knot trying to figure it out and to what end?

lucy-

He obviously has huge problems with how to conduct relationships with women!! Steer well clear!! I think you are right about his ego - he sounds quite a sad sort of a guy who wants to pretend he has a load of girlfriends! He might be texting you whilst out with other people in order to make them jealous - if you dont reply it spoils his game!!

Whatever way you look at things, he is just a player and you are certainly better off having nothing to do with him.

If he persists, ask him to stop texting you. Hopefully you wont have to change your number, but it is an option if things get too much bother.

star.chaser

he's just shy. give him a break

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

in my personal experience, he does it just to be able to keep in contact with you in case you change your mind and want to hook up (sexually again).

if you're truly not interested in having sex with him again, request, quite earnestly that he delete your number and never contact you again.

I agree 100% here. He is a most likely a player and probably keeps this up with a few other women. Men who are oversexed and have difficulty staying in relationships are very predatory sometimes and have incredible levels of persistence.

All the best.

dblennon

yeap def a player keeps up contact with replyers.

if you want him to stop then don't reply he'll take you off his list in 2 weeks

LegacyUser

OP here

Thanks for the replies - in my head I knew that's what was going on with him, but it's good to hear other peoples opinions. I sent him a text just now telling him in no uncertain terms never to contact me again. Thought this was best as early on in the game (before I had sex with him) I tried the no replies & more subtle brush offs but he still persisted. Hopefully that's an end to it now - it's actually a relief to have finally reached a conclusion with it!