Guys opinion needed - just a booty call?

LegacyUser

Met a guy two weeks ago, got on well and slept together. Have been sporadically texting since, sometimes with gaps in between -usually raunchy texts. He suggested meeting up again for more fun, said he'd come to see me. There's a three/four hours drive between us. It seems like a long way to travel for just a booty call? Or is it? Guys, how far would you travel to meet a girl for just sex?

Liam Byrne

Unregistered wrote: »

There's a three/four hours drive between us. It seems like a long way to travel for just a booty call? Or is it? Guys, how far would you travel to meet a girl for just sex?

"a girl", or you ?

If he likes you, then accept it. And if you like him, great!

Yes, you could go for a random score and hope for an all-nighter, but if you like someone and get on with them and "had fun", then why not go there instead ? Surely that's better ?

I'm not sure what the issue is here ? Aside from you overlooking the fact that he's prepared to travel for 4 hours to meet you (which is a compliment) do you have an issue with that possibly signifying that it's not just a booty call ?

LegacyUser

OP here.

Thanks Liam. I think I've said things backwards -self preservation or something.. I think it's great that he's going to come to see me and I hope it's not just a booty call! I'm just afraid that 'maybe' it is just sex to him, which would disappoint me. But I was thinking that it's a long way to come if he has no other interest in me. I think he would have no problem meeting someone for something casual where he lives. Would like other's opinions please.

Buzz Buzz

I flew to Madrid last weekend for one, my mate hit Glasgow three weeks ago for another.. never underestimate the power you guys have when it comes to sex!

Liam Byrne

Why not meet up and see how it goes ?

Yes, if ye've had sex it might be expected, and labelling it - one way or the other - on the second meet might not be the cleverest, but if there's a chance that ye have some fun together before....well, having some fun together ... then maybe ye'll both want it to go further ?

No harm in a little self-preservation, as long as it doesn't kill off the potential!

Best of luck !

Miss Fluff

Unregistered wrote: »

He suggested meeting up again for more fun, said he'd come to see me

If he phrased it as more fun, it's a booty call.

I've flown to another country on a booty mission so yes, people are prepared to travel.

LegacyUser

Agree with Miss Fluff. Calling it "more fun" definitely means a booty call!

LegacyUser

Lots of people may tell you that nothing meaningful can ever come from a 'booty call' situation, but that's not the case at all, chances are if he likes you enough to travel something more may happen...

lala stone

"Raunchy txts" "more fun" "sporadically texting"...sounds like a booty call... if he doesnt ask u on a date or if his messages ar all about sex then it is def a booty call...

star.chaser

Unregistered wrote: »

Met a guy two weeks ago, got on well and slept together. Have been sporadically texting since, sometimes with gaps in between -usually raunchy texts. He suggested meeting up again for more fun, said he'd come to see me. There's a three/four hours drive between us. It seems like a long way to travel for just a booty call? Or is it? Guys, how far would you travel to meet a girl for just sex?

The furthest I've travelled for a shag was Norway. Wouldn't go any further than that. I have friends who've went as far as Australia and the USA. Desperados

Unregistered wrote: »

Met a guy two weeks ago, got on well and slept together. Have been sporadically texting since, sometimes with gaps in between -usually raunchy texts. He suggested meeting up again for more fun, said he'd come to see me. There's a three/four hours drive between us. It seems like a long way to travel for just a booty call? Or is it? Guys, how far would you travel to meet a girl for just sex?

And then you woke up and realised it was all a big dream and yes, your life is sad enough that you have to spend so much time fantasizing

LegacyUser

OP here.

Guess I better just enjoy it for what it is!

LegacyUser

or make him drive all the way and say you are on your period. Tell him next time you want dinner. Sometimes the girl has to manipulate the booty caller to keep him

prinz

lala stone wrote: »

"Raunchy texts" "more fun" "sporadically texting"...sounds like a booty call... if he doesn't ask u on a date or if his messages are all about sex then it is def a booty call...

Nail on the head. If he had interest in anything else IMO he would have asked if he could come see you / if you'd like to meet up etc / even something simple like tell you he had a great time with you and would like to see you again sometime. It's a booty call. Doesn't matter what distance he's travelling, his frame of mind is way more important, and in his mind you = sex.

Liam Byrne

mindf&*k wrote: »

or make him drive all the way and say you are on your period. Tell him next time you want dinner. Sometimes the girl has to manipulate the booty caller to keep him

Appropriate username with an attitude like that! :mad:

Why would you want to manipulate someone ?

Either
(a) it's a booty call, and it's up to her to decide what she wants (e.g. say no if that's what she wants to do)

(b) it's not a booty call, and it's up to her to decide what she wants (e.g. say yes or no if that's what she wants to do

(c) it's - as yet - undefined, and because they enjoyed themselves last time he's hoping for more of that, along with maybe something else, in which case it's up to her to decide what she wants to do

If the OP is open to a,b or c and is OK with a "sure let's see how it goes", then there's no problem.

If she's hoping for any particular one or the other and is unsure how an alternative scenario would make her feel, then she should say no. Simple as.

It's HER - unfortunately uninformed, because we don't know 100% either - decision. The main thing is to make a decision from which she'll enjoy herself and have no major regrets.

But stupid mind-games and manipulation are for 2-year-olds, not mature adults. :rolleyes:

OP - hope it goes (and works out) well! Good luck!

Liam Byrne

lala stone wrote: »

"usually Raunchy txts" "more fun" "sporadically texting"...sounds like a booty call... if he doesnt ask u on a date or if his messages ar all about sex then it is def a booty call...

Corrected that for you based on what the OP actually wrote.

And also you've assumed "more fun" implies sex (and only sex) ....why ? The OP also said that they "got on well".

Astrogeek

It is only the second time you are meeting this guy?

If you don't want the relationship to be all about sex, don't make it all about sex, offer to feed him first, he isn't going to save no to food. Get to know him, decide what you want from him and then talk to him about it.

LegacyUser

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Either
(a) it's a booty call, and it's up to her to decide what she wants (e.g. say no if that's what she wants to do)

(b) it's not a booty call, and it's up to her to decide what she wants (e.g. say yes or no if that's what she wants to do

(c) it's - as yet - undefined, and because they enjoyed themselves last time he's hoping for more of that, along with maybe something else, in which case it's up to her to decide what she wants to do

If the OP is open to a,b or c and is OK with a "sure let's see how it goes", then there's no problem.

OP here again. I think you've summed things up perfectly there Liam Byrne. Will go with the flow and enjoy myself anyway. Certainly not going to have any sort of a 'where do we go from here chat?' cos I'm happy enough to see him casually for now and I don't know him well enough to know if I would like anything more 'defined'!

Liam Byrne wrote: »

OP - hope it goes (and works out) well! Good luck!

Thanks!