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BJ's - Not very good at it

  • 21-06-2009 11:52am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I didn't want to derail the other thread on here so I just wanted to ask. IS it possible to be really useless at oral sex?

    I don't think I'm very good at it all, it seems to take my bf ages to climax when I do it and sometimes he doesn't at all and we end up having intercourse for him to finish.

    Because of this I am a bit reluctant to do it very often and I am afraid I will appear as being selfish.

    I have asked him if I am doing it ok for him and he always says yes, but I think he just doesn't want to hurt or insult me by telling me the truth.


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  • #2
    Xiney
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,085 ✭✭✭Xiney


    It's all about communication.

    Tell him that you want to know how to give him the best blow jobs ever. Ask him to communicate to you what he likes, before and during.


  • #3
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    I didn't want to derail the other thread on here so I just wanted to ask. IS it possible to be really useless at oral sex?

    I don't think I'm very good at it all, it seems to take my bf ages to climax when I do it and sometimes he doesn't at all and we end up having intercourse for him to finish.

    Because of this I am a bit reluctant to do it very often and I am afraid I will appear as being selfish.

    I have asked him if I am doing it ok for him and he always says yes, but I think he just doesn't want to hurt or insult me by telling me the truth.

    I know I have posted in the other thread on this - so I don't want to come across as someone who thinks he is any kind of expert. Only that I am in my forties and have experienced a lot of different experiences.

    My personal experience is that the majority of girls I have had experience of have not been great at oral sex.
    My advice, if you want to get better at it, is to get real communication going between you. Not just yes or no stuff... try to make the thing into a real fun thing and tell him you want to give him the best one he has ever had.... and when you start ask him what he wants MOST ....and to tell you how ... and where ... etc... and giggle a little.... make the thing a really fun raunchy thing..

    I think it is ironic considering we men have had thirty years of being lambasted by the feminist groups and the media for being attentive enough or knowing or caring enough about pleasing our women. All the while women have not really had any of this.

    All the best OP !!


  • #4
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    There are plenty of how too guides out there, I suggest you use google.


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