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Can't stop looking back...

  • 21-06-2009 2:41am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My ex broke up with me about 2 years ago. For the last six months of our relationship (of 2.5 years) it was pretty sh*tty, so I wasn't too surprised. But I still took the break-up very badly. I really thought he was 'the one'. I felt like utter crap for about 4 months after the break up, then a new guy started showing a lot of attention, really wooed me (sorry to use such a crap term but not really sure what else to call it), made me feel special, good about myself again. So now, 18 months after that, he and I are still together.

    For the first while, I thought of this new guy as a little fling to help me get over the ex. But then, as time wore on, I began to realise that he's really a wonderful guy, that we have loads in common, including a shared vision for the future (which my ex and I never had). So I don't believe my boyfriend is a rebound (though he might have started as such). I am sure he is more than that. I am sure I love him.

    So why oh why do I find myself at 4am on Saturday night thinking incessantly about my ex, about how much I still miss him, about how my current boyfriend doesn't inspire the same depth of emotions in me? I know I'm looking back on my ex with grass-is-greener syndrome, but somehow I can't stop it. Tonight is not the first time these feelings have welled up, to be honest it happens pretty regularly, whenever I'm feeling a bit down.

    I want to move on from my ex, and love my current boyfriend wholeheartedly. I wish the f***ing ex would get out of my head (he's out of my life anyway) but I just don't know how to do so.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Do you hear from your ex at all now? Or has he disappeared of the planet altogether?? If you do maybe you should ask him does he have any feelings for you now. I know it's difficult to move on but i actually think everyone has someone in their heart that they don't necessarly end up with because it's a one sided feeling. If he tells you he hasn't than you can move having that closure. Maybe a break from your current BF might make you realise that it is him you can't live without.
    Good luck!


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