Totally lost!!!

kev_s88

just broke up with my GF...literally within the last hour...and i dont think its full hit me yet...this was the girl i loved and its over...i dunno what im gonna do and i cant figure out how im gonna get by...shes on holidays at the moment and shes not back til the week we start back in college...and we both have the exact same friend base so we cant even avoid eachother!

someone please gimme ideas to get me through...

Rebelheart

kev_s88 wrote: »

just broke up with my GF...literally within the last hour...and i dont think its full hit me yet...this was the girl i loved and its over...i dunno what im gonna do and i cant figure out how im gonna get by...shes on holidays at the moment and shes not back til the week we start back in college...and we both have the exact same friend base so we cant even avoid eachother!

someone please gimme ideas to get me through...

Hi. Need more info. Why did you break up with her? How long have you been doing a line? And have you ever broken up with each other before?

[Jackass]

Were you out drinking? Was it over the phone and stuff?

Maybe sleep it off and see how you feel in the morning. If it's something that you want then you'll just have to learn to cope I guess? I mean live life normally as she's not around at the moment anyway, and "enjoy" the time in between now and when she gets back.

If it's not something you want, give her a call tomorrow and try and sort things out.

kev_s88

[Jackass] wrote: »

Were you out drinking? Was it over the phone and stuff?

Maybe sleep it off and see how you feel in the morning. If it's something that you want then you'll just have to learn to cope I guess? I mean live life normally as she's not around at the moment anyway, and "enjoy" the time in between now and when she gets back.

If it's not something you want, give her a call tomorrow and try and sort things out.

no we had a massive 5 hour chat and its pretty clear that theres no going back on it now...shes on holidays til the end of august so it was done tastefully over facebook

Rebelheart wrote: »

Hi. Need more info. Why did you break up with her? How long have you been doing a line? And have you ever broken up with each other before?

basically she decided she didnt think it was working anymore...she told me she loved me and then we had a massive fight and she said she saw a different side to me, a side she couldnt love...fight was about a month ago and we thought we'd sorted it out but it was still stuck in her head...and no this is the first time we've broken up

LegacyUser

Mate, go sleep for a bit. Seriously, sleep is wonderful for clearing the head. You'll wake up and realise either you desperately want her back, or it's the start of a new clean break for you. Or maybe you'll need a bit more time on this forum. But either way, go to sleep first.

LegacyUser

About the fight, was it because she told you she loved you or was there something else?

Other than that, life moves on and in time you won't feel this bad - you're right it probably hasn't hit you yet but now it's time for you to get some sleep and re-evaluate in the cold light of day as they say. There's very little you can do as regards the friends base other than just get back in among them, but don't use them as pawns in the middle of this, simply be yourself.

senape

I had a similar online break-up and it's not the ideal situation but necessary given the circumstances. It will be difficult and it won't hit you fully for a while take this time your apart to try deal with your own sh1t and then when she comes back you can talk to her properly and get closure or get back together whatever it is you both want.

This 'side of you' she couldn't love, do you think it might be brought on underlying unhappiness in the relationship. Often you can lash out if your not feeling 100 percent happy/secure in your relationship.

Although you have already broken up because of the method you will both have things to deal with when you finally meet face to face. It's best to make this as amicable as possible so take the time that she's away to assess what happened and how you really felt about the relationship and how you feel about her now.

kev_s88

Unregistered wrote: »

About the fight, was it because she told you she loved you or was there something else?

Other than that, life moves on and in time you won't feel this bad - you're right it probably hasn't hit you yet but now it's time for you to get some sleep and re-evaluate in the cold light of day as they say. There's very little you can do as regards the friends base other than just get back in among them, but don't use them as pawns in the middle of this, simply be yourself.

no the fight was completely unrelated...basically i had loadsa stuff going on at home and we were away with all our friends for the weekend and it just felt like she wasnt paying me any attention...shes very friendly and wants to please all her friends and it felt like i was being taken for granted so i talked to her bout it and things went a little south

kev_s88

i just dont know what to do...she text me today saying "we're only on a break and that she wants to wait til end of summer and then see if we can get things going again...." i dont know if i can do it...i mean i love her but its been heartache for me after last night

VaioCruiser

kev_s88 wrote: »

i just dont know what to do...she text me today saying "we're only on a break and that she wants to wait til end of summer and then see if we can get things going again...." i dont know if i can do it...i mean i love her but its been heartache for me after last night

Get on the blower to your friends and get busy ... get to some gigs... go to some social events... get in touch with brothers and sisters... get busy and get your mind off it.

Don't make any rash decisions now. You have the luxury of time. Let things play themselves out and see how you feel in a few weeks.

All the best !

LegacyUser

dont worry mate... you will get over it. Honestly, pour yourself a stiff measure of scotch and look up some self hypnosis on youtube... you'll be a new man... fk it, plenty more sharks in the sea