What to do?

LegacyUser

Well the story is, I broke up with the OH about 2 weeks ago after a year long relationship. I want to get her out of my head but I find my friends don't seem to care about what im going through.

They all say we should go out and hit the pub/clubs to cheer me up and meet a nice girl,
but when it gets down to going out, they all bail on me...

Its been 2 weeks now and its getting worse. They left me hanging on my own in a club last week. We were supposed to meet up at the place. So I payed in and waited for them there...about half an hour later they text me and say "sorry man, not really in the mood anymore". Had to get a taxi home by myself

They keep saying sorry to me and they say we will go out tomorrow night instead. At this point I don't take them seriously anymore, its all bullcrap.
I honestly don't know what to make of it, would you call them friends? I'm really having my doubts. And im always there for them...doesn't seem to go both ways...

Any thoughts on the matter would help

LegacyUser

Hey OP, I understand where you're coming from. I broke up with my boyfriend after a 2 year relationship last week and most of my close friends haven't even been asking how I'm feeling(even though I live with a few of them). I don't expect them to listen to me go on about it but an occassional "how are you feeling today?" would be nice.

If my friends invited me out and then left me there on my own I'd be less than impressed and I'd definitely say something to them.

Right now you need your friends more than ever to get your mind of your ex. I find the only friends that understand my situation are the ones that have had long term relationships, so maybe thats the problem?

I wouldn't go as far as not calling them friends, I just find some people don't know how to react in these situations.. as in what to say or do without upsetting you.

Hopefully your friends will show tomorrow and you can enjoy a night out.

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

Well the story is, I broke up with the OH about 2 weeks ago after a year long relationship. I want to get her out of my head but I find my friends don't seem to care about what im going through.

They all say we should go out and hit the pub/clubs to cheer me up and meet a nice girl,
but when it gets down to going out, they all bail on me...

Its been 2 weeks now and its getting worse. They left me hanging on my own in a club last week. We were supposed to meet up at the place. So I payed in and waited for them there...about half an hour later they text me and say "sorry man, not really in the mood anymore". Had to get a taxi home by myself

They keep saying sorry to me and they say we will go out tomorrow night instead. At this point I don't take them seriously anymore, its all bullcrap.
I honestly don't know what to make of it, would you call them friends? I'm really having my doubts. And im always there for them...doesn't seem to go both ways...

Any thoughts on the matter would help

As a guy... all I can say is "Men!!!!"

This is typical of the kinds of "friends" we tend to accumulate in life. Light hearted, fair weather "friends" who don't turn up when we need them.

I have no answers... just to say try to divert yourself with work and try to find a friend who is reliable when you need him. Get busy and let yourself heal. And when you do heal, remember who was there for you and who bailed out !!!

Good luck !

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

They keep saying sorry to me and they say we will go out tomorrow night instead. At this point I don't take them seriously anymore, its all bullcrap.

OP here, sorry I typed that wrong...

They keep saying sorry to me and they say we will go out the following night instead. The following night comes and its the same story, they bail on me! At this point I don't take them seriously anymore, its all bullcrap.