What do I do?

Double Top

Me and my ex girlfriend recently broke up, we said we would remain friends, a week after the break i find out she is seeing some else. she is now saying that she made a huge mistake breaking it off with me and all she wants is me. i still love her but i don't know what to do, i don't want to brake them up, i am really confused. i havn't had many realtionships so i'm still naive about stuff like this, does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions of what i should do, i would really welcome it

Wagon

Double Top wrote: »

Me and my ex girlfriend recently broke up, we said we would remain friends, a week after the break i find out she is seeing some else. she is now saying that she made a huge mistake breaking it off with me and all she wants is me. i still love her but i don't know what to do, i don't want to brake them up, i am really confused. i havn't had many realtionships so i'm still naive about stuff like this, does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions of what i should do, i would really welcome it

This sounds like one of those scenarios where she has thought she has found someone better so she breaks up with her boyfriend and then realises that the grass isn't greener on the other side. So now she wants you back.

If she loved you, she woulnd't have broken up. she misses the emotional bond that you two shared and now wants that back when she realised that she didn't have it with this new fella.

chances are, she'll probably break up with you again down the line out of reasons of curiousity. So let her to them and tell her no. It'll save you lots of headaches.

Oh, and don't do the friends thing. It'll make things much much harder.

Double Top

Wagon wrote: »

This sounds like one of those scenarios where she has thought she has found someone better so she breaks up with her boyfriend and then realises that the grass isn't greener on the other side. So now she wants you back.

If she loved you, she woulnd't have broken up. she misses the emotional bond that you two shared and now wants that back when she realised that she didn't have it with this new fella.

chances are, she'll probably break up with you again down the line out of reasons of curiousity. So let her to them and tell her no. It'll save you lots of headaches.

Oh, and don't do the friends thing. It'll make things much much harder.

think the friend thing is what has me thinking like this, i was over her and i hadn't spoken to her ina while then out of the blue she calls me and all the feelings i had for her came flooding back. she is the first girlfriend that i have loved and this situation is killing me

Wagon

Double Top wrote: »

think the friend thing is what has me thinking like this, i was over her and i hadn't spoken to her ina while then out of the blue she calls me and all the feelings i had for her came flooding back. she is the first girlfriend that i have loved and this situation is killing me

Cut contact bud. It's the only way you can completely get past someone. If she gets upset over it, well tough **** for her. When you break up with someone you have to accept the fact that you will probably never see them again. Don't let her guilt you into being friends. Look after yourself first and foremost.

LegacyUser

Get back with her.

It would appear she now appreciates you more than she did before, I would see that a good thing.

What is the worst that can happen? You might break up with her at some point in the future and you would be where you are now, but things would be more certain. In the meantime, you would presumably had some good times.

More to win than lose if you ask me.

Double Top

if anything else happens i will post it up. am kinda sideing with Wagon at the moment but whoever wrote about staying has some good point too

thanx for the help so far

VaioCruiser

Double Top wrote: »

Me and my ex girlfriend recently broke up, we said we would remain friends, a week after the break i find out she is seeing some else. she is now saying that she made a huge mistake breaking it off with me and all she wants is me. i still love her but i don't know what to do, i don't want to brake them up, i am really confused. i havn't had many realtionships so i'm still naive about stuff like this, does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions of what i should do, i would really welcome it

Hi DoubleTop - PLEASE don't listen to the knee jerk "dump her" advice that is constantly tossed around here.

As I see it from your 'cryptic' post this is the order of what happened:

a) The two of you broke up
b) She went out with someone - which she is entitled to do .. yes ?
c) She ended with him - maybe she realised that she had made a mistake..
d) She wants to get back with you.

You need to talk with her and try to tease out of her why she broke up with you ? It seems likely you are both very young, and she might have been scared that she was missing out of life by staying in a long (relatively) relationship. This is a completely natural feeling and one that has arisen in a recent post here this week.
Everyone is entitled to be scared and make a mistake... after all it could have been you in the same position.
If you still like her a lot and want her - then take her back and get on with having fun and being happy.

All the best.

Double Top

thanx for the advice, sorry i didn't go into more detail i my first post, my mind was all over the shop

a) yes it was mutal break up
b) it wasn't that she was seeing some else it was the quickness in how she done it (one week after)
c) she is still with but there not getting on
d) yes she does, she says that i'm the only one she wants and
she made a huge mistake suggesting with see other people.

the reason why she said about breaking up is that we were drifting apart, even though i was there for through everything (her grandmothers death, fighting with her step-dad, etc).

yes we are young i'm 20 and she's 19, we were together for four months ( i know not a long time but she was my first girlfriend)

thank you again for the advice seem like you have a good head on your shoulders

all the best to you too