Anal

LegacyUser

Not a relationship issue per se but one I'd like to have the opinion of someone who has done it before. Basically myself and my gf said we'd try it, experiment a bit do different things and this is on the list and is pretty much the next to be ticked off. Obviously I have a little background research done - plenty of lube, slowly & gently seems to be the gist of it so far. I'm wondering if anyone has anything to add to that? Is is much fun, or any?

Thanks!

Otis Driftwood

Just try and have her as relaxed as is humanly possible.Give her a couple of orgasms first to help with this,take it very very slowly because it will hurt and there will likely be some bleeding so be prepared for that too.

And lube,lots and lots of lube.

Oh,and make sure above all that you use a condom,cannot stress that enough.
Durex extra safe are a good bet.

bubski

Some drink as well.

Can take it drunk, sober just cant do it:rolleyes:

Nevyn

Don't go over board on the lube honestly there is such a thing as too slippery.

LegacyUser

does it affect your body permanently, is there damage, i heard you break a ring (whatever that is) and that u can lose control over excrement

Xiney

Unregistered wrote: »

does it affect your body permanently, is there damage, i heard you break a ring (whatever that is) and that u can lose control over excrement

Not unless you're completely ignoring her cries of pain!

Seriously, as long as you're careful it's not dangerous at all.

Sarah W

A useful tip is for her to back onto you (with you standing), rather than you pushing into her - it gives her control over the speed and depth of penetration. And both go very slowly when stretching the (thankfully!) powerful sphincter muscles, they will relax when she does. Enjoy.

Nevyn

Unregistered wrote: »

does it affect your body permanently, is there damage, i heard you break a ring (whatever that is) and that u can lose control over excrement

Utter myths and misinformation.
Anal sex is the penetration of the rectum by the penis, the rectum only has excrement in it in the short while before a person defecates, if a person makes sure that they do not need to defecate or has defacated recently and washed the area then there will be little to no excrement there what so ever.

The ring you are referring to is the sphincter mucslce at the top and the bottom of the rectum the will open when pushed against and will close after wards and will not stay stretched from anal intercourse alone.

Other dangers are miro tears which may result in some small amount of bleeding but these can be avoided with enough lube and being careful on initial penetrations.

waraf

Not into it myself but apparently lady porn stars use an enema before anal scenes. Still feeling romantic? :D

old boy

lube, not an ecessive amount, + PLENTY stimulation, and chances are if at first you dont suceed, there is always tomorrow, anyways whats the hurry, patience is often the best ingrediant.

castle

You should go in inch by inch and wait a little before you go further dont just pound away, also you might cum a lot quicker than usual due to it been tighter than straight sex and also the taboo factor,
I think it would be best if you had normal sex first and came, then if you try the anal after you should last longer.You don't want to come after a few seconds you really want to make it last as you don't know when you will get up there again.

HalloweenJack

The best way to prepare is to use your fingers down there first off.

Start off with one finger, gently pushing it in and out, then do the same with your thumb, then do it with two fingers. This will help her muscle stretch and make it easier for both of you when you put your knob in.

LegacyUser

Im a woman, I tried it with a partner a few times, it was more uncomfortable than painful. I cant speak for everyone but my own opinion of it is its like taking a dump with someone else in the room whose getting off on it. Some women love it supposedly so dont take my experiences as gospel on the subject. Some stimulation around the anus can be nice as a part of sex but from my own experiences the repetitive penetration of anal sex isnt all that good for the woman. Maybe incorporate it as part of sex rather than the feature event so to speak.

VaioCruiser

Unregistered wrote: »

Im a woman, I tried it with a partner a few times, it was more uncomfortable than painful. I cant speak for everyone but my own opinion of it is its like taking a dump with someone else in the room whose getting off on it. Some women love it supposedly so dont take my experiences as gospel on the subject. Some stimulation around the anus can be nice as a part of sex but from my own experiences the repetitive penetration of anal sex isnt all that good for the woman. Maybe incorporate it as part of sex rather than the feature event so to speak.

Your last sentence is the important one here imho. I have experience both situations. I have been with a couple of ladies over the years who have enjoyed it very much and a few who hate it. As far as my personal feeling go, I enjoyed it immensely with one lady who really enjoyed it and we shared the feeling of it being a little crazy - however physically I never found it that pleasurable. I always found the physical feeling of normal penetration far more enjoyable and satisfying.
It's all about personal preference. It's also, in my personal view, an experience that should be kept for a mature relationship where a couple is looking to explore their physical relationship more, after the initial fizz is fading.

RossFixxxed

Can I just say the 'drunk' idea is incredibly foolish. She needs to be aware of what's going on and if things are sore then that's not a good thing. Being drunk can mask this, also if there is a little blood alcohol will make it worse. Stay sober and take it slowly, slowly, slowly!

partyguinness

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Best position to start with IMO, is her lying on her stomach and taking it from there.

TBH I need to use lube more than she wants it.

My OH loves it. In fact. last night over the phone she requested it for the weekend. I am not fussed. Not the same obviously but sure she enjoys it..so I am happy to oblige...;)

lil'bluestar

I'm pretty much the same I really enjoy it, get the most intense orgasms when doing bum stuff my boyfriend still finds it hard to believe I enjoy it so much!

Lube is definitely the most important thing, but I found getting oral with fingers in there and coming a few times really relaxed me and made everything feel easy when we did get into it.

Key is to take it slow and listen to her make sure everything feels good for her. I love my boy facing me so I find putting a pillow under my bum in missionary makes a better angle for him so you could try that, I love it!

rantyface

I hate it and the lube makes my farts extraordinarily loud and squelchy until I go to the loo. If you're in the kind of relationship where that wouldn't be a big issue, grand. Also make sure she has cleared her bowels in the last few hours, preferably just before.
It's not sore but it's like doing a massive hard poo for half an hour. If she's usually constipated it won't be too unusual a sensation, but if she eats healthily it will require a lot of unusual stretching. It gives weak orgasms on its own. Better is normal with a finger up there.

I see it as give some take some. I try not to think about it.

Kimia

rantyface wrote: »

I hate it and the lube makes my farts extraordinarily loud and squelchy until I go to the loo. If you're in the kind of relationship where that wouldn't be a big issue, grand. Also make sure she has cleared her bowels in the last few hours, preferably just before.
It's not sore but it's like doing a massive hard poo for half an hour. If she's usually constipated it won't be too unusual a sensation, but if she eats healthily it will require a lot of unusual stretching. It gives weak orgasms on its own. Better is normal with a finger up there.

I see it as give some take some. I try not to think about it.

Doesn't sound very sexy does it lol

Make sure she wants to do it just as much as you OP.

Wibbs

Sleipnir only helpful posts please. Post deleted. Only warning.

Piste

Maybe a glass or two of wine would relax both of you before hand? I'm not saying get totally locked, just relaxed a bit.

Micky Dolenz

It ain't all it's cracked up to be (forgive the pun)

The fantasy of it is nearly better than the reality. Vaginal sex is far better in my opinion.

Oryx

Clitoral stimulation as you do it can greatly enhance the experience for her.

Now, this is just hearsay, but I found it helpful, I have no idea if it is factually accurate. I heard that your anus has two sphinter muscles, one concious (ie you can relax it conciously) one unconcious, (will tense automatically) further in. So the key is, once you go in a certain amount, the girl will tense up unconciously unless she is very aware of it, and very, very relaxed. Like I said, cant vouch for the validity of the biolgical description here, but I found that thinking of the mechanics of it in that way is very helpful to a novice. Learning to beat your bodys automatic tendency to tense up.

Gummy Panda

I did it with an ex and she really enjoyed even though she was very nervous at first.

Generous amounts of lube and patience is the key. Tbh, I was surprised how much she liked it in the end so it wasn't one sided experience

Nevyn

At this stage the op has had plenty of advice so I am locking this thread.
There are discussion thread there for those who wish to keep posting here.