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  • 17-06-2009 11:26am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've seen my ex a few times since we split 6 weeks ago, we've texted, we've drank, we've hugged and are getting on well.
    My father and sister are against us being friends.
    We weren't working for ages and both just hanging around the place together every day doing the same thing and it got stale. It was his idea to break up and I know that we were at the end of the line but it was still a shock to me.
    I haven't told anyone the exact details of what happened.
    I want us to be friends because the relationship thing aside he is a good person and we get on well.
    The thought of us getting back together isn't forefront in my mind, infact I am interested in meeting other men. The only thing that makes me sad around him is thinking of how great we started out and how things fizzled out.
    We've been in the pub once and he said it felt a bit like a date. We're going out again at the weekend with mutual friends but I have a niggling doubt. Part of me is grand around him and I like that we are friendly but the other part of me doesn't know if the being friendly thing is a good idea. I know the whole avoid contact thing and I know it probably is good advice. I don't know what to do sometimes!


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  • #2
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    I would say if you are intereseted in meeting other men then you should take a step back from your ex.
    Its only been 6 weeks so there are still going to be alot of residual feelings and its all too easy to get back into the same routine and end up back together out of habit.
    Go out,meet new people,have a blast,but do this without spending time with the ex.
    Believe me,it will make things a hell of alot more easy.


  • #3
    Trinity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,662 ✭✭✭Trinity


    6 weeks is not long enough by any means to break the bonds of a relationship and reconnect as friends

    You need to walk away, particularly if you are gonna start seeing other guys, while it was his decision to break up, it might turn nasty if in his eyes you move on too quick

    have a break from him for a week or 2 and see how you feel

    i always find hanging around with an ex straight after a break up is like refusing to bury a dead body, people only half letting go


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