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New girl

  • 14-06-2009 11:25am
    #1
    Sony
    Closed Accounts Posts: 301 ✭✭


    Okay so i met this girl , shes great and shes mad about me (happy days)

    Im trying to control my jealousy as best i can cause Ill admit I have a tendency to be jealous of my girl receiving attention from males (hitting on her).... Listen I know shes with me and I should be just glad about that so trust me I really am doing my best to handle them.

    Now the problem lies with my girl trying to make me jealous - ive brought this up with her as it came to a head the other night where I was basically left feeling embarrassed as hell while she flirted outrageously with another guy she knew right in front of me - it was clear he was getting the wrong idea and so I said something which stopped all the messing.

    Unfortunatley I cant deal with this type of thing happenening I really didnt think she was that type of girl who craved attention like this to make me jealous and I have said this to her (she assures me that she is not, this was a once off and she didnt realise she was doing it)

    I believe it to be a test and its driving me mad - why do women do this? how should I react in future ? I dont wanna tit for tat situation chatting girls up in front of her its just not me - im 28 and well beyond this stage - she is 25 - seeing each other for a month and a half full time !

    Thanks for the help guys


Comments

  • #2
    prinz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,598 ✭✭✭✭prinz


    Sony wrote: »
    Im trying to control my jealousy as best i can cause Ill admit I have a tendency to be jealous of my girl receiving attention from males (hitting on her).... Listen I know shes with me and I should be just glad about that so trust me I really am doing my best to handle them.

    tbh it doesn't sound to me like you're succeeding in handling them so perhaps you should look into professional help, or at least talk to a friend or family member about this. It's not healthy. A certain degree of jealousy is in everyone but not to your level, other people control it, you obviously cannot.
    Sony wrote: »
    Now the problem lies with my girl trying to make me jealous - ive brought this up with her as it came to a head the other night where I was basically left feeling embarrassed as hell while she flirted outrageously with another guy she knew right in front of me - it was clear he was getting the wrong idea and so I said something which stopped all the messing.

    Seeing as how you're the one with the jealousy issues I would be inclined to believe there wasn't anything nearly as untoward going on as you suspected. She was chatting to a guy she knew, and you took that one way through jealousy green tinted shades. I hope you said whatever it is you said to her privately and not in front of the friend, or your relationship won't last very long.
    Sony wrote: »
    Unfortunatley I cant deal with this type of thing happenening I really didnt think she was that type of girl who craved attention like this to make me jealous and I have said this to her

    This isn't her problem. This is YOUR problem.Deal with it yourself and don't try to offload it onto her.
    Sony wrote: »
    she assures me that she is not, this was a once off and she didnt realise she was doing it

    Take her word for it? :confused:


  • #3
    RealistSpy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,686 ✭✭✭RealistSpy


    I don't think she should be doing such a thing if you are not happy with it. I am on the underside I don't mind if my partner flirts with order guys I just watch them fail. Anyways talk to her and if she continues, why not give her a taste of her own medicine or just end it.


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