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Can a girl be friends with an ex?

  • 13-06-2009 11:28pm
    #1
    nicegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 560 ✭✭✭nicegirl


    Well, went out with this lad before, and we left things as me and him being "friends". He was a really nice lad and we haven't been in contact since.

    I'm just wondering, can a girl be friends with an ex, or when its over (even in friends terms) is it possible to stay in contact and be "friends" with an ex? Or for a lad is it a case of once it didn't work out, never speak to the girl a again?

    Any thoughts on this issue, lads advice would be good....:)


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  • #2
    Esme Microscopic Fashion
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Esme Microscopic Fashion


    This should sum it up
    http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055590298


  • #3
    Vanbis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭Vanbis


    nicegirl wrote: »
    Well, went out with this lad before, and we left things as me and him being "friends". He was a really nice lad and we haven't been in contact since.

    I'm just wondering, can a girl be friends with an ex, or when its over (even in friends terms) is it possible to stay in contact and be "friends" with an ex? Or for a lad is it a case of once it didn't work out, never speak to the girl a again?

    Any thoughts on this issue, lads advice would be good....:)

    I believe you can be but it really depends on if you departed on good terms or not, if he finished it with you then its likely "friends" idea wont happen but if it's the girl i think most guys would generally just move on and forget. I think most who stay friends would be people who would be going out for years.

    ps: I like your location comment "Dublin...or The Big Stink when stuck in traffic"


  • #4
    redorblack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 82 ✭✭redorblack


    No. I think once a certain line is crossed theres no crossing back into 'friendzone'


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Vanbis wrote: »
    depends on if you departed on good terms or not

    True

    From experience, as long as it ends on relatively good terms then there's no major problem. If you got on well before, you should be able to after the break-up (Assuming no major issues, disagreements etc. come up)


  • #6
    nicegirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 560 ✭✭✭nicegirl


    Thank you for all your replies. Ok, the situation is I went out on one date with him about 6 weeks ago, and we haven't been in contact since, and we agreed we would stay friends.

    What would the situation be with going out with someone on a first date? We got on well, and all that, but could we still be friends? I haven't heard from him in 6 weeks, and I haven't been in contact with him.....:confused:


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  • #7
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    nicegirl wrote: »
    Thank you for all your replies. Ok, the situation is I went out on one date with him about 6 weeks ago, and we haven't been in contact since, and we agreed we would stay friends.

    What would the situation be with going out with someone on a first date? We got on well, and all that, but could we still be friends? I haven't heard from him in 6 weeks, and I haven't been in contact with him.....:confused:

    Of course you can. I have experienced it and many of my friends have also. However it depends on both parties emotional situation. It also depends on how the split happens. A lot goes into the mix. But in principle it is absolutely possible.

    All the best.


  • #8
    Clown Shoes
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38 ✭Clown Shoes


    Tricky, very tricky.

    It´s that word "friends". It covers all manner of sins...


  • #9
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    nicegirl wrote: »
    Thank you for all your replies. Ok, the situation is I went out on one date with him about 6 weeks ago, and we haven't been in contact since, and we agreed we would stay friends.

    What would the situation be with going out with someone on a first date? We got on well, and all that, but could we still be friends? I haven't heard from him in 6 weeks, and I haven't been in contact with him.....:confused:
    Neither of you have been in touch with each other in 6 weeks. Why do you want to be friends now? Wouldn't you have been in touch sooner?


  • #10
    Amy33
    Closed Accounts Posts: 343 ✭✭Amy33


    It all depends on how you feel about them, if you want to be more than friends then the whole friendship thing isn't going to work, I mean if he meets somebody new if you're just friends then it's not going to bother you, if you want to be more than friends you're going to be hurt.

    My two closest friends happen to be both exes and our friendships are cpmpletely platonic, this is probably unusual though. It works because we wanted different things and parted on good terms.

    On the other hand I came out of a relationship of sorts recently, he finished with me, but I really wanted us to work, he wants to stay friends, but I don't see the point, I want to be with him, he doesn't want to be with me, so better to forget him.


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