Communication gone - I'd like advice :(

lostinlimerick

i dunno wat to do actually me and my current bf of 11 months dont talk much to each other and find it hard to start a conversation with each other.
we ve broke up 3 times 1st was said he didnt luv me anymore as i was caught txtin my ex .as a friend tho but i understant his view tout i was cheating and well d other times of breakin up jst i started cos i wanted him to care...

thing is i do love him much i jst wish i cud ix it but im a jealous girl n he goes to a mixed skool n my mind parinoys me...

i have little trust in him even tho he hasnt cheated nor txt any one

i dont want to leve him either as i have no friend n find hard to talk to ppl over bad things that happened to me..

if u can help do if not i understant thanks:(

John Mason

can you re-type your post in english?

i cant understand a word of it

LegacyUser

shes saying she just wants to fix it as any girl wud its bit easy to understand if i were her i wud give it another try sure wouldnt hurt to communicate find a simple easy topic e.g work,school, friends etc

Podman

I don't really know what to say about your situation. It sounds to me like your lack of trust and paranoia is holding you back, If you believe he's not cheating then stop worrying.

He said he doesn't love you, has this changed since the first time you broke up? Perhaps this is one of the causes of the missing communication?

Maybe when your talking to him, mention your concerns about the mixed school (and your ex being a Friend if its still relevant), and Tell him that you need to be able to chat to each other, even just about small stuff.

Maybe you could do something new to experience together? or by yourself, anything at all.
I would recommend joining a theatre group or something like that, (there's one on boards Dublin (arts), and also http://www.quarryplayers.com/ and http://centrestageireland.com/ in Limerick). It's a real buzz.

I do also think you should widen your circle of friends, one or two other people you can go out with and have a laugh.
It's important to have real world friends aswel as online people you can chat with.

I hope things work out..
J

lostinlimerick

hi thanks i ll hopefully use your advice but i think truthfully its me whos ruining it see i have become too dependent on him since my close friends decided to drop me n ignore me so i ve become very unsociable i would just like a chance to havefriends again and relax towards my bf as i do love him but hate the akward silence

prinz

lostinlimerick wrote: »

i dunno wat to do actually me and my current bf of 11 months dont talk much to each other and find it hard to start a conversation with each other.
we ve broke up 3 times

Perhaps you should just call it a day. Nothing about you two strike me as creating a stable healthy relationship environment. It might seem like the end of the world but it really shouldn't be all this work and drama kiddo.

dudara

lostinlimerick You really need to use capital letters and full stops in your posts. One continuous block of text is incredibly hard to read, nevermind understand.

On the topic of your post, if you are breaking up with him to try to get his attention, then you need to step away. Doing that is emotionally manipulative and childish. It will only backfire on you.

dudara