Move to Dublin or stay

LegacyUser

Would really appreciate some views on the situation

I have a 3 yr old daughter and work in the west of the county. A year ago I started going out with a guy Ive known for ages who had to move to Dublin for work.

I feel lucky to have a job and try to get on with it but work has been quite stressful of late, there are a number of issues with management. I know its not specific to me , the whole county is worried about their job however its a difficult situation which is frustrating me & starting to get me down as I feel a number of jobs (incl my own) may be jeopardy.

The company I work for is also based in Dublin, I have been toying with the idea of possibly looking into if I could have an internal transfer. I would have done this ages ago but I feel my quality of living is better here for both me and especially my daughter, she is settled in a creche, we live in a nice area and have been happy here.

On the other hand one of the pull factors is that my boyfriend has been trying to move here but it doesn't look like he will get the opportunity to move any day soon with the current jobs market."( so he has said he thinks it would be great if we made the move - I feel so unsure ! I love him but ultimately I'm really adverse to the idea of living in Dublin . On my salary our standard of living will deteriorate (its not even great at the moment) and I am not sure if we would settle there?

I don't know if I should sit things out here and hope the work situation improves or just take the plunge which may improve the work situation & would be great for my relationship but not sure if its the best move for my daughter given that we have set up a home here - Any advice ?????????????

Home4Life

Why not move to Dublin?
If you're sure about this guy, it would improve your quality of life to move.
Behind all of the moaning about traffic etc you can have a decent quality of life in Dublin. The facilities and playgrounds for kids etc are actually quite good also.
Ultimately, it comes down to your relationship with this guy. If he's worth it, go for it,

best wishes,
H4L

I recently moved back to Ireland for similar reasons and yes my standard of living is worse (not to mention the weather ) but the rewards of being closer to my partner (we're not living together yet) are enormous.

You two aren't that far apart and could manage a long distance relationship for a while longer, there's no pressure ... other than that which you feel at work.

Would you be moving in with him in Dublin? If so, I think the impact on your standard of living would be less dramatic than you think.

Dublin's not so bad You and your partner can find a nice place to live, set up home together and have a family life together. If that's what you want, focus on that and not the downsides.

As regards your daughter, at her age a move (if done correctly) wouldn't be a trauma but timing is everything once they get older. A time frame you could give yourself is ... "she's starting school next year ... will that be here or in Dublin". Once she's in school, moving her would have more of an impact. And presumably (if you love the guy) your daughter would benefit from having him around too.

At the end of the day, you should be moving because you want to be with him, not because you want to get away from something. In my experience (working in a company where over half the work force were ex-pats) moves rarely work out if they're for the wrong reasons.

towel401

dublin is a horrible overcrowded place why anyone would want to move there is beyond me

nuttz

towel401 wrote: »

dublin is a horrible overcrowded place why anyone would want to move there is beyond me

agreed

Firetrap

I think you should go for it if you and your boyfriend believe you have a serious relationship. While Dublin might not be everyone's cup of tea, it's not as if it's hell on earth or anything.

metrovelvet

I dont know. I used to be very fond of dublin and hated the country. But now I live in a place where there are no junkies, my child is safe, there is lots of greenery, and more space for your money when it comes to housing and creches, etc.

If you move you better be pretty certain about this guy, as in ring on your finger certainty. You're taking a lot of risks and demanding a lot from your daughter, no matter how many people say how adaptable kids are.

jimmycrackcorm

A move to Dublin would be ok if you could get a place very close to your work and creche etc. If you have to commute then it's a total loss.

bangersandmash

towel401 wrote: »

dublin is a horrible overcrowded place why anyone would want to move there is beyond me

Over-crowded? Seriously? Complaining about sprawl in Dublin is fair, but it's still a low density city with plenty of green spaces. Over-crowding is far from an issue. Leave your Cork bias at home.

Xiney

towel401, please try to be helpful in your posts here, otherwise you will be banned.

Ta

Xiney

July

Having moved to Dublin from 'the country' I can honestly say I didn't realise how good I had it before. Dublin is fine but that's all. That's coming from a young, free and single professional. If you want to be settling down as a family I think Dublin is not the place (unless you're from Dublin, which you're not..).

Think of the support you have at home - family, friends. Dublin isn't that far away from anywhere in Ireland but a distance, however small, is a distance.

You already recognise the quality of life you have where you are. Sounds like your problems are job-related and you may still have job-related problems/job loss in Dublin. I know you're probably thinking it'd be great to live with your partner but maybe you should bide your time where you are until the time comes when he's in the position to move home.

If you are both in Dublin it's going to be nearly IMPOSSIBLE for there to be a good time for both of you (and your daughter) to move back. If only one of you are in Dublin and trying to move back, the chances are greater of it working out for you. Maybe delayed gratification is the best way.

LegacyUser

There are amazing parts of Dublin with opportunities for kids you just can't get anywhere else in the country. Check out an area like Raheny OP, brilliant schools, 240 acres of woodland, playing fields, pitch and put, tennis courts, an island with a bird sanctuary, more wildlife than you will see in most rural areas, a blue flag beach, amazing playground facilities, a farmers market, 5k from the city centre, 5k from Howth head with its shops and restaurants, excellent public transport (Dart and Bus's), reasonably priced rental.

That is simply one area, plenty more like it. Choose carefully where you live though, check it out at night and during the day.

The city is what you make of it, galleries, museums, restaurants... it has it all. Things are getting cheaper too, lots of blackboards, lots of "kids eat free" signs. I was out last night and four of us ate for 90 Euro with wine. There were kids with us and they had a ball.

Towel401 and Nutzz clearly don't know and fear the city. Embrace it, plenty of non Dubliners have been embraced by the city and have done very very well.

LegacyUser

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

If you have to commute then it's a total loss.

Bang on, a lot of people move to Dublin and simply don't research where they are going to live, and then brand the city as a dump. Try and stick close to town, close to the coast and near where you work.