Leaving your friends

christina_x

Is it just me or are you lot also finding the thought of leaving your friends when you go to seperate colleges absolutly terrifying?
I really dont want to leave them:( They keep me sane:pac:

Was just watching the slideshow that me and my friend made for our 6th year mass and now im all sad thinking about how i (hopefully) wont be back in school with them or like how they wont be around as much any more!:(

I dont like it:p
what about you guys? are there many of your friends going along with you or are you going on your own?

BLARG

Thank god I hate all my friends.

star-pants

Lol @Blarg

Aye it is sad to not see them every day - because it becomes part of your routine and it's weird. I ended up going to college in galway (I'm from dublin) on my own, I knew no one!
It was fairly scary at first and tbh I was homesick at times, but as I attended more classes I made new friends who I still have today (millions of years later )
But I still saw my old friends when I could, and I'm still friends with some of them now, we made it through being in different counties for 4 years. Some you grow away from and some you'll keep. But don't let it get you down

OneArt

Won't make much difference at all... I've only a tiny group of friends actually in school, most of mine are from outside (hell some aren't even in school anymore!), so I only see those ones on weekends anyway.

I'm actually not sad in the least bit. If anything, this means I get to see my outside-school friends even more! w00t :P

challengemaster

Most of my better friends left the school about 3 years ago... The small group of friends in the school....meh, I'm not the kind of person who needs to see friends every day or I'll die.

VinnyTGM

Yeh probably be a bit sad, but I don't really care. I could see them if I wanted to.

Piste

I'll miss our insane chatterings at lunch

Fad

I'll miss certain aspects, but others I wont.

Dunno how I'll feel until next September!

yummy91

I terrified of what it'll be like if I dont get the points for Ireland and end up in scotland and only coming home during holidays:eek:
At least if I go to dublin or maynooth I can go home at the weekends like..

Reilly616

christina_x wrote: »

Is it just me or are you lot also finding the thought of leaving your friends when you go to seperate colleges absolutly terrifying?
I really dont want to leave them:( They keep me sane:pac:

Was just watching the slideshow that me and my friend made for our 6th year mass and now im all sad thinking about how i (hopefully) wont be back in school with them or like how they wont be around as much any more!:(

I dont like it:p
what about you guys? are there many of your friends going along with you or are you going on your own?

I live in Cork. Most of my friends are going to UCC, and so am I. Guess I'm lucky.

Adriatic

There's some people I'll be glad to see the back of and others that I'll try and keep in touch with so I don't mind.

Des23

All based on me hypothetically getting the points I need and moving from cork to dublin...

I don't know though, I'll probably miss some aspects and the comfortable familiarity of everything, but I honestly don't think I'd be too bothered. I mean I'm obviously sad that schools over, but I mean I wouldn't say I'm dreading college and having to make new friends. I'll still have my friends back home and I'll come home most weekends. To be honest it will probably be nice not to see them everyday, because when I do get to see them I'll actually enjoy it rather than the usual monotony that can accompany things these days, but that could just be because of the leaving cert.

I love making new friends though, to be honest I don't think the college experience would be half as enjoyable if you just stick with the same crowd from your hometown/school.

Gavin "shels"

Suppose it's an advantage to me I'm in a school with 130 people with only about 25 in mine and with 80% of them living within 5 mins from my house it's all good. Going to miss a few of the foreigners though who are heading back home.:(

Des23

Gavin shels wrote: »

Going to miss a few of the foreigners though who are heading back home.:(

Yeah me too. One of my friends is heading mack to Lithuania.

Gavin "shels"

Des23 wrote: »

Yeah me too. One of my friends is heading mack to Lithuania.

Might are going a tad further, Korea and Mauritius.:D

yurmothrintites

Bit of Advice...

The less friends you go or live in college with, the better.

You will meet way more people, make more friends and generally become more involved in social things with others in your class. Generally these people make more of an effort.

manutd4life

i'll miss them but tbh if i get into dcu i'll still be with a load of them.

playing football during 10 minute break was brilliant and kicking the 5th years of our bench

randylonghorn

Des23 wrote: »

Yeah me too. One of my friends is heading mack to Lithuania.

Gavin shels wrote: »

Might are going a tad further, Korea and Mauritius.:D

Think of it this way ... compared to even 10 years ago there are so many ways to keep in contact, email, msn, googlechat, texts, boards, you name it ...

And opportunities to go visit countries and see the real country in company with a local, rather than just be a tourist!

I've been to Lithuania a few times for work reasons, Des, and it's well worth a visit, and very cheap for food / drinks / shopping etc. Accom. can be a bit variably priced, but there are lots of very reasonable options if you avoid the international chains who catch the business traveller who "always" stays in Blah chain of hotels, and won't even look any further. Do you know what part ... Vilnius / Kaunas / more rural?

Korea and Mauritius I haven't reached yet, but they're two really interesting destinations and definitely on my "to do" list, and I would just love to think I had someone local over there already.

Claypigeon

I'm not that worried - the people I'd consider my 5 best friends are going to Galway also so I won't be alone, even put in for shared accomo with one of 'em.

I do still agree with what someone said above - making new friends is half the experience of 3rd level and I'm going to do that, too. However I don't get how closeminded and shy you'd have to be to not make new friends in addition to your "old" ones that are at the college in your late teens/early 20s :P Bit sad if you're that socially inept that far on

Antamojo

I doubt my group of 10 about mates will seperate. Been together since primary, went to the same secondary school and live in the same area.
There's a few people in my school who'll I'll still be mates with as well, others just no.
I'm the only one applying to UCD, so the opportunity is there for new mates as well.

xOxSinéadxOx

not really cos I'll see them every weekend, any friends I don't see at the weekends I didn't really like anyway

markopantelic

yeah its a load of **** really, ill probably just go to a community college coz no way in hell am i going to some pompous university.

Pygmalion

Fairly good friend of mine has same first preference course as me. And I reckon I'd meet up with a couple of others regularly, though if we don't live very close and have jobs and stuff might get hard to do.

phasers

I'm with Blarg on this one - I hate everyone I'm involved with at school, have done for a while now. Problem is they're friends with my one actual school friend so I had to keep hanging out with them.

My best friend (Who isn't in my school) is moving to London for college which I find much more upsetting.

Saul-Good

Think about it, this was pretty much the same story when we all left primary school, you worried about not seeing the majority of your classmates again but here we are, 5 or 6 years later, and who can say that they've ONLY hung around with their primary school friends since then?

The only difference with college is that we're going into an environment with MORE opportunities for socialising. And everyone there will be in the same boat as you too, new place, new people etc. so I think it's gona be hard not to make new friends in September.

Don't get me wrong, I've made some of the best friends in Secondary school that I could ever hope to have and I share a real a sense of fraternity with everyone in my year. But I for one am really looking forward to college, varity is the spice of life!:D

christina_x

Claypigeon wrote: »

I'm not that worried - the people I'd consider my 5 best friends are going to Galway also so I won't be alone, even put in for shared accomo with one of 'em.

I do still agree with what someone said above - making new friends is half the experience of 3rd level and I'm going to do that, too. However I don't get how closeminded and shy you'd have to be to not make new friends in addition to your "old" ones that are at the college in your late teens/early 20s :P Bit sad if you're that socially inept that far on

:eek: 5 of your friends are going to galway?? Your so lucky!
its just me and my sister from my group of best friends that are going there. 2 guys that we hang out with in school are going too but i wouldnt class them as my best friends, you know?

of course im going to make friends in college, thats not the point i was trying to make! I was just saying like how we will grow apart and stuff!
there are 7 girls in my group inc myself. 4 are going to dublin, one to derry and that leaves me and my sister! And atm we live a good 30 min drive away from eachother and nobody has a car (well.. 1 does but shes 30 mins in the other direction) so we wont see eachother outside of school unless its nights out!
just kinda sad thinking that we wont be as close anymore is all!
bleh

christina_x

Saul-Good wrote: »

Think about it, this was pretty much the same story when we all left primary school, you worried about not seeing the majority of your classmates again but here we are, 5 or 6 years later, and who can say that they've ONLY hung around with their primary school friends since then?

The only difference with college is that we're going into an environment with MORE opportunities for socialising. And everyone there will be in the same boat as you too, new place, new people etc. so I think it's gona be hard not to make new friends in September.

Don't get me wrong, I've made some of the best friends in Secondary school that I could ever hope to have and I share a real a sense of fraternity with everyone in my year. But I for one am really looking forward to college, varity is the spice of life!:D

yeah i suppose your right!:)

markopantelic

u cant make the same friends in college, because the people u meet in college all already have their own friends, i'm a very friendly person and i would be friends with anyone but fact is u can never have friends in college like u have growing up.

aido179

I really feel like i'm going against the flow here...I'm living about 20 minutes away from the uni i'll be going to (fingers crossed) and i actually dont want to go so close...I really regret the fact that I'm not going to get to start again...my town is so god awfully parochial. I was really hoping to go to UL and get to board up with some other people in my situation and make new friends (imagine the craic in student accomodation?) but it's looking like it's going to be me at home on my own every night (woo).
plus, there may be a hell of a lot of new people going to uni, but i am still thinking i'll end up bumping into a load of them and i really dont want to deal with that shit again.

Ginja Ninja

Antamojo wrote: »

I doubt my group of 10 about mates will seperate. Been together since primary, went to the same secondary school and live in the same area.
There's a few people in my school who'll I'll still be mates with as well, others just no.
I'm the only one applying to UCD, so the opportunity is there for new mates as well.

Same as,there all staying near home,either sligo or galway,only 2 of us going any bit far away.Me to UCD[please god] and one of the girls to UL

Des23

aido179 wrote: »

I really feel like i'm going against the flow here...I'm living about 20 minutes away from the uni i'll be going to (fingers crossed) and i actually dont want to go so close...I really regret the fact that I'm not going to get to start again...my town is so god awfully parochial. I was really hoping to go to UL and get to board up with some other people in my situation and make new friends (imagine the craic in student accomodation?) but it's looking like it's going to be me at home on my own every night (woo).
plus, there may be a hell of a lot of new people going to uni, but i am still thinking i'll end up bumping into a load of them and i really dont want to deal with that shit again.

Exact reason I don't want to go to UCC

Crash Override

In my situation, my nest friends all live very close to me like alot within walking distance so even though they are all going to different collages, it won't matter.

There will be a few people I'll miss, peers more so than friends, but still, what I'm doing there is just gettin contact info such as numbers, bebo, msn etc so I can keep in contact and meet up the odd time.

Then there will be the new Friends that will be made in collage so I'm not worried overall, sure, one of my best friends moved from dublin to meath there a few years back and we are still very much in contact ...distance means nothing

markopantelic

LOL id hate to live in anywhere outside of dublin. we're more progressive here

star-pants

markopantelic wrote: »

LOL id hate to live in anywhere outside of dublin. we're more progressive here

lol, spent 4 years in NUIG and I wouldn't trade it for the world :P

christina_x

Crash Override wrote: »

one of my best friends moved from dublin to meath there a few years back and we are still very much in contact ...distance means nothing

Thats really true, my best friend from Primary moved to Dublin at the begining of first year (im up here in good old Donegal) and were still really close!
she comes up every school break so its ok!

but i think you have to be like best best friends for that to work, otherwise youl drift apart!

Claypigeon

I hate Dublin with a passion tbh. Couldn't live there if I were paid.

poisonated

christina_x wrote: »

:eek: 5 of your friends are going to galway?? Your so lucky!
its just me and my sister from my group of best friends that are going there. 2 guys that we hang out with in school are going too but i wouldnt class them as my best friends, you know?

Hey
You think thats bad?Im going completely on my own:eek:
I hope to stay in touch with my friends...I will probably only come back once every couple of months though

LivingDeadGirl

Tbh I can't wait to get away from most of them, for ever one person I wanna see again there's ten I can't wait to see the back of.

~Candy~

well..
if they are real friend, ye will keep in touch no matter what...
and you will be getting new friends..=)

haha,this may make you feel better, sure i made some of the greatest move in moving to ireland yrs ago and started everything from 0 ...and i absolutely adore the move, and my new friends..:D like sometimes moving isn't all bad

but yea,still would feel sad, i 'd miss them...it's not as if you wouldn't ever see them again

pearliefan

I'm just looking forward to a change!!!:)

Jam-Fly

BLARG wrote: »

Thank god I hate all my friends.

*inspired by your sig


SHUT THE F*CK UP DONNY!!!

SugoiHito

I only have 2 best friends from school and most of my other good friends go to a different school anyways so it wont make much of a difference!I had a best friend as a child who i only saw during the summer and she was one of teh closest people i ever had!We drifted apart not cos of distance but due to...other factors,she just changed badly!So im not really sad about leaving school and i cant wait for college and new socialising it will bring^^

thelittleone

yeah its sad and pretty scary but i went 2 NUIM 3 years ago and knew no one, but I made loads of new friends who I love to bits.... they are from all different parts of the country and the world but they are def my friends for life. My friends have changed a lot since school but the people I was closest too are still my best friends and its great to have something like meeting up with them when you come home for a weekend to look forward to. Facebook/bebo etc are great for keeping in touch with them 2.

celtic723

doesn't bother me in the slightest tbh.:pac::pac: **** happens i suppose.

ironclaw

LivingDeadGirl wrote: »

Tbh I can't wait to get away from most of them, for ever one person I wanna see again there's ten I can't wait to see the back of.

Seconded and the motion is carried.

I can't wait to see the back of some people...

Jammyc

ironclaw wrote: »

Seconded and the motion is carried.

I can't wait to see the back of some people...

Likewise...very much so!