Should I tell him?

LegacyUser

This incident happened 6 months ago. At the time I didn't feel bad at all, didn't feel I'd done anything wrong but for some reason I've started to feel bad the last few days...

Basically I was with my ex, Guy A, for 2 years. Was my first real boyfriend, was very serious about him, lived together etc. Things started to go a bit weird between us towards the second half of last year. In November I found out he'd cheated on me while on holidays - I was destroyed, in bits but tried to carry on as normal as possible. A few weeks later Guy B, my good friend, asked me out and I thought why not. I'd always liked him and things were finished with the bf. He was going away to live on the other side of the world so we said it'd just be fun between us. We had a great time until he left. A few days after he left, he told me he really wanted to make a go of the relationship and I agreed. I really liked him and couldn't see myself interested in anyone else. Here's where I was stupid.

I was moving abroad myself earlier in the year. I had no way to the airport so asked the ex if he'd take me as I've no car. He agreed. This meant staying over at his house. We had to sleep in the same bed as he had no couch nor sleeping mat, but at opposite ends, him in a sleeping bag. We'd had some wine with dinner and were both tipsy and ended up talking about how good our sex life used to be. He got a hard on and I told him sorry but I wasn't doing anything, I was with this new guy now and that was that, but there was LOADS of sexual tension and it was hard to sleep after that.

So now I'm feeling a bit bad that this happened. I didn't cheat and was nowhere near cheating, but it was a bit inappropriate. I don't know why I'm feeling bad now, as at the time I didn't think there was anything wrong. Should I tell my BF about this, or should I let it go? I have the feeling it'll only upset him and make him paranoid. I normally tell everyone everything but I feel like in this case it could do more harm than good.....

Mozart1986

Well done! You passed the test. You're a good girlfriend. Be proud and let it go. If it was me I'd be happy to have a girl that was even concerned.

Wibbs

Have to agree. You were sorely tempted yet did nothing. Kudos.

Seth Brundle

You didn't do anything wrong so why feel bad? In fact as Mozart, you were loyal by not following on the (probably natural) sexual tension.
Well done!
However, don't mention it to your bf IMO - I wouldn't like to hear it and I'd bet I'm not alone (despite it being fairly innocent)

IIMII

Aye, but I'd tried to stay out of the ex's bed in future

LegacyUser

Live and learn - say nothing, stop feeling bad about yourself because you did nothing (that) wrong.

That_Guy

Honestly myself it wouldn't be something I would really like to hear. I know you did nothing wrong but it's the thoughts of you with him that would personally make me feel a little ill.

I wouldn't say it to him. You didn't do anything wrong as such. He's your ex for a reason and I reckon you should cut all contact as of now.

starbelgrade

You didn't do anything wrong, though you could have... as a previous poster said, try staying out of ex-es beds if you don't want anything to happen. And the only thing that will come of telling your new guy, is that it'll either wreck his head or upset him, or both.

Best of luck in your new bed!

LegacyUser

Mozart1986 wrote: »

Well done! You passed the test. You're a good girlfriend. Be proud and let it go. If it was me I'd be happy to have a girl that was even concerned.

agreed...you're brill..say nothing ...well done !!