Does he like me? If not, why kiss me?

Little_Daisy

A guy I've known for a couple of months recently kissed me on a night out. We spent the whole night out together, just kissing and dancing. It felt FANTASTIC. He seemed so into me, his body language, his actions, the things he said. However, ever since that night he hasn't shown any interest in spending time together again. It's like we've sprung back to being friends, and we've never spoken about what happened. We're both 19, so surely we're beyond the stage of random kissing? I think I could really like him. Why did he kiss me if he clearly wants nothing more? I don't want to make a move on him for fear of rejection. Any clarifiation would be greatly appreciated, the whole situation is driving me insane.

petes

Looks like the two of ye were out having a great time on said night out.

I would say you will have to bring it up with him as no one here can speak for him. Have you been in a social situation with him since?

Little_Daisy

No, not in the same type of situation that led to kissing. We've been out during the day together with a group of other people, we have the same friends. The whole thing is just so strange to me, why kiss someone and then pretend it never happened? If I had slept with him I could perhaps understand that he benefited from it, but surely kissing doesn't equate with sex in that way!

Silverfish

Did you try asking him?

Maybe he thinks you're also pretending nothing happened.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Sometimes you're just drunk/horny and act all interested so it might progress further. Then wake up the net day and realise you have no interest in the person.

karly

Yeah I think I'd have to agree with Bottle_Of_Smoke, was there drink involved OP? The manner in which you see people can completely change even if you've just had a drink or two and it seems to me that this guy was just on a good night out, one thing led to another, and thats it...I speak from experience here, these things unfortunately do happen on nights out and seem to be completely forgotten about the next day....I reckon try and speak to him about it but don't be expecting much to come from it

VaioCruiser

Little_Daisy wrote: »

A guy I've known for a couple of months recently kissed me on a night out. We spent the whole night out together, just kissing and dancing. It felt FANTASTIC. He seemed so into me, his body language, his actions, the things he said. However, ever since that night he hasn't shown any interest in spending time together again. It's like we've sprung back to being friends, and we've never spoken about what happened. We're both 19, so surely we're beyond the stage of random kissing? I think I could really like him. Why did he kiss me if he clearly wants nothing more? I don't want to make a move on him for fear of rejection. Any clarifiation would be greatly appreciated, the whole situation is driving me insane.

If it's important to you then the best and simplest way of knowing where exactly you stand is to ASK. It will save a LOT of heartache, time and trouble. Get him at a quiet time and be blunt.... it is always the best method. Ask him " So John, what's the situation ? are you interested or not ?" or words to that effect :-)

All the best !

LegacyUser

if he liked you and he wanted to be with you, you would know. he wouldnt just go back to being friends. at the end of the day, if a guy likes you, 9 times out of 10 he will let you know!

iHeartRyanAdams

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if he liked you and he wanted to be with you, you would know. he wouldnt just go back to being friends. at the end of the day, if a guy likes you, 9 times out of 10 he will let you know!

yeah gotta agree with them!

eleven

When i was 19 this happened to me. I couldn't believe how amazing it was! Was totally blown away by kissing/dancing/flirting all friday night with my friend. Was so excited all weekend, couldn't wait to see him again.

And then... the next time I saw him nothing had changed. It was as if it hadn't even happened. I was blown away again, but in the opposite way. Every day for a week I was gobsmacked, and devastated. I listened to The Smiths and cried myself to sleep!

Then we went out the next Friday, got drunk made out and we're still together 6 years later!

The f*cker had no idea I was feeling like that all that first week. He thought we were just flirting, and I was being coy. Apparently he was pretty confident that we were just biding our time til the next time we were out, and he didn't want to rock the boat in front of our friends.

Boys. :rolleyes: