How to ask him?????

LegacyUser

Hi All
I need some help...........

My sisters wedding is in eight weeks time and i am chief bridesmaid!
I am currently seening a guy for the last couple of months and i am thinking of asking him to the wedding as my guest. Now the thing is he knows my family very well and i know his for years as we are neighbours,but i have only told my mom and my sister that we are seening each other but he hasnt been to my house but i have been to his on a couple of occasions.

My problem is do i ask him to the full day or just to the evening????His parents are also going to be asked to the wedding as they are family friends so its not like he will be on his own for the day if they go!! I dont want him to fell weird on the day as i will be in the bridal party and i wont be able to be around him until the meal is over.

I dont even know how i am going to bring it up in conversation!!!!

Any advice would be great!!!

Taltos

Keep it simple.
Just drop it into your next conversation about the wedding.
Simply ask him if he fancies coming as your guest.

That part over with then ask him his preference on the options - leave it up to him, but tell him how you feel.
ie if you would love him there for the whole day - great - but if you don't mind if he only comes to the afters to avoid boredom great too.

Be clear first in your own head though - if his not attending the ceremonly and hence not being in the pictures - will upset you then let him know.
However equally if you are not bothered by this it will take the pressure off him to come to the whole thing.

Just sounds like you just need to chat about it though - only one day so it should not be a hugely stressful affair at all.

SarahSassy

Evening I think... Dont want him to be a spare there all day sitting with his parents...

Femelade

I agree with taltos.
drop it into the next conversation about the wedding.
Tell him you would love for him to come along, but you would understand if he only wanted to come to the afters.
He should be fine going to the whole thing though, as his parents will be htere so he wont be left entirely on his own.
You better mention it to him soon though, wedding is in 8 weeks and he might already be wondering if he is invited or not...He might need to book time off work..

petethebrick

Ask him whether he wants to go for the full day or just the evening. Don't assume that he wouldn't want to go for the full day as he might be annoyed if you just invite him for the evening

Liam Byrne

+1

You want him to go = good.
You'll be busy doing bridesmaid's things and won't have "time for him" until the evening = understandable.

So mention the above to him and ask him what he wants to do.