Too soon to move in?

LegacyUser · 07-06-2009 9:24pm #1

Not really looking for advice on this one, just would be interested in hearing a few opinions on it... I know I should be talking to her about it rather than looking for advice from randomers, and I plan to!

Long story short, I (male, if it matters) got together with my flatmate 2 months ago after we had lived together for 4 months, things are going unbelievably well and we've both already said (and meant) the L word.
We both have to move out of our current flat in a month, and I'm about to suggest that we find a place together.
For me, the pros to this outweigh the cons (if there are any), and I have a friend that I could easily move in with if things did ever go pear shaped

Bear in mind that we've spent a grand total of 2 days apart in the past 2 months, have slept together every one of those other nights and already pretty much know each other inside out...

So too soon or go for it?

LegacyUser · 07-06-2009 9:27pm

Not necessarily, but why don't you look for a two-bed place, and each have your own room. That way, you have your own space but are still living together.

dudara · 07-06-2009 9:32pm

This question has come up before in this forum and I'll repeat what I said then.

Trust your instincts - go for it if it feels right.

Piste · 07-06-2009 9:34pm

Well you're already living together and seem to be getting on great, so I doubt it'd be different. I agree that it'd be a good idea finding a 2 bed place so you each have your own space.

Mrs Shankly · 07-06-2009 9:36pm

Hi OP, to give my tuppence-If it feels right, then maybe you need to take the plunge- but err with caution, as I think its something that you need to consider seriously before going ahead.

When you move in together, the dynamic totally changes in the relationship- you go from dating- and even if you have been spending a lot of time together in the meantime- to living together, and all that comes with it, ie arguing about whose turn it is to do the washing up, all the domestic stuff. You do stop "dating", in effect.

Sorry, I hate to say all that, I just think it best to throw out the possibilities so that you can weigh it up and make the best decision!:)

LegacyUser · 07-06-2009 9:51pm

Thanks all, appreciate your input so far

Mrs. S' post is definitely helping me weigh up the pros and cons a bit more fairly... Guess I am just going into this a bit blindly without thinking about the negative aspects properly.

I should have mentioned that a 2 bedroom place was already part of the plan... Would be too damn hard to find a 1 bedroom place that isn't too cramped for 2 people to live in comfortably anyway imo

Too soon to move in?

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