Is he hiding feelings for me?

LegacyUser

We have known each other for a few years. He had confessed feelings for me before, so did I but nothing could happen. Once he realised nothing could happen he denied everything and said he doesn't have feelings and never did, we agreed to be honest with each other and he still said he doesn't and never did have feelings for me. When he didn't think I believed him about not having feelings for me he cut off contact. When we first ran into each other a few months after cutting off contact he said too much had happened for us to be friends so that was it. We ran into each other again a few weeks later and he said he had been thinking about it and wanted to be friends, lifes too short to hold grudges. Since then he has also asked if I find it weird being friends, I don't know why or what he meant by asking that.

Am I right to be confused? How can I tell if he is trying to hide feelings for me?

tolteq

it seems to me like you didnt want anything to happen. why do you want it now? you cant give out the wrong signals and expect to get what you want.

he obviously had feelings for you when he told you.

wylo

I know I was crazy about an ex years ago, and in the end we became friends, but because I still had very strong feelings for her (loved her then hated her bla bla bla) I just slowly had to cut contact with her without her noticing too much. Its the only thing that was to help me in the end. I rarely talk to her now, and its the only way Ill be happy with someone else.

I reckon he has feelings for you, hes being too inconsistent and confusing to not care anymore. He sounds your on his mind way too much, but he sounds like hes trying to fight it too.

LegacyUser

OP again here. It wasnt that I didnt have feelings for him, I did(still do), but circumstances were against anything happening at the time. We did agree to be honest with each other, but it has gotten pretty confusing...

LegacyUser

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OP again here. It wasnt that I didnt have feelings for him, I did(still do), but circumstances were against anything happening at the time. We did agree to be honest with each other, but it has gotten pretty confusing...

Just ask him straight out if it bothers you that much. We can't tell you if he's interested or not, how would we know when you're not giving much away.

bronte

I'd just tell him op!

I'd be driven mad if I didn't!