Suddenly the world has paired off??

LegacyUser

I'm a 24 year old woman and seemingly the only single one left in the country. !!!

No but seriously, I graduated from college nearly two years ago and have been out in the working world since then. All my colleagues range in age from early to late twenties and are all spoken for. All my college mates, bar one or two, are settling into long termers and I'm beginning to feel like an outcast for being single...which I have to say is a new experience.

I will admit I am one of those eternally single types, my last relationship was two and a half years ago and since then, bar a drunken snog or two, nothing. Nada. To be brutally honest (one of the virtues of going unreg) a lot of this I would attribute to my confidence issues. Had an eating disorder for a while and have found it hard to get happy in my body ever since. I'm not bad looking, and am quite stylish, love my clothes, makeup and all that jazz, but in reality I'm not 'out there'. To be honest I don't know if I'm ready to be, I have a lot of confidence issues to pull through before I get into anything serious.

It's just this new perceived 'deficiency' by society etc that I am now struggling with. I get the 'why don't you have a boyfriend?' / 'any men?' Qs from friends / acquaintances, and as one of maybe two or three singletons in my deparment, I nearly feel like if it goes on much longer, I will be gossip fodder.

Relationships seem to happen so easily for everybody else...I can't get my head around how other couples come together so easily while I am permanently on my own, with nothing on the horizon.

Ah, I don't even know what I am trying to achieve with this post. Simply getting it off my chest is a start I guess.

tolteq

ah just keep at it. lots of people are single. like in my experience i have come across very decent people, who are just so shy. u have to dig em out. lol. so keep at it.

option 2 pm if you want to discuss the confidence issues.

thee glitz

I work in a young environment, 60% female, and i'd guess about 30% are single
(and seem fairly content) so you're by no means alone. I'm in the same boat
as you, coming from the other side. It does seem unfair that you would get
stick over not being attached, not many 24yo single men would. I've got a few
confidence issues myself so can't help you there other than say you seem a
decent type, there's plenty of 'right for you' people out there but you won't be
ready for a relationship until you're happy with yourself.

I_am_Jebus

I wouldn't worry about it. Been in 3 long-term serious relationships, two ended on good terms, one ended on very bad terms and I am in my mid 20s. Single for a short while now. Nothing wrong with that, just do things according to yourself, you'll have plenty of opportunity to meet people throughout your life. My work has people ranged between 26 and 60. I dated one of them (the younger age bracket).

Just live your life, I find things just fall into place. And, like you allude to, I have little confidence as well but thats not always a barrier to meet good decent people and falling in love (even if it doesn;t end up as a marriage relationship).

as others have said, keep at it, life is short, but you are young and anything can happen

gaeilgegrinds

Loads of people I know are single, more than half anyway! I was single for ages. It happens when you do not expect it, fact.