Masturbation

LegacyUser

I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and we are very happy together. We dont live together but are able to enjoy a regular sex life. The issue is that my boyfriend has admited to me that he masturbates when im not around. Like if we have sex one night he'll masturbate the next morning when im not there. I also know that hes not thinking of me everytime he **** because I have found porn sites on his computer. Is this normal for gusy to do? Or is it a case that hes loosing interest in me or that im not satisfying him? Shoudl I be worried?

Miss Fluff

Suely you masturbate when he's not around too? I guess it depends on your sex drive but I would see it as perfectly natural for him to do this in between being together. It's a positive thing. Regular masturbation will make him last longer when he's with you and personally speaking it's great to get yourself riled up solo in between doing the deed.

Why don't you masturbate in front of one another so it will dymistify it for you?

Brimmy

Unregistered wrote: »

Is this normal for gusy to do?

Yes.

Unregistered wrote: »

Should I be worried?

No.

Simple as really. It's perfectly normal so don't worry

Mimikyu

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Faith

Completely normal, and indeed healthy. I'd be more worried if he didn't masturbate - it would signal a low sex drive to me, and I couldn't be having that!

jdivision

completely normal, wouldn't worry about it at all

thee glitz

as above.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

I'd be abit sceptical on the above points, obviously people above also do this. Should sex not be about just two people and not porn on the internet too.

OP i'd be a bit worried of the internet, while I would agree masterbation is a natural thing. Continual behaviour could lead to a wandering eye if your sex life reduces.

Good luck.

Otis Driftwood

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi OP,

I'd be abit sceptical on the above points, obviously people above also do this. Should sex not be about just two people and not porn on the internet too.

OP i'd be a bit worried of the internet, while I would agree masterbation is a natural thing. Continual behaviour could lead to a wandering eye if your sex life reduces.

Good luck.

Yes and we should also only ever eat chicken.

Is it not more likely that he would seek solace in the arms of another person if didnt masterbate?

Nothing at all wrong with it OP.

Borneo Fnctn

Everything's okay. You'll be fine, trust me.

LegacyUser

OP here, thanks for all of your replys. Im glad to see that the general consensus is that it’s perfectly normal. I guess the issue lies with me so. I probably am too analytical of the situation. If I’m honest I have my own hang ups regarding masturbation, I don’t do it enough myself and usually create excuses for avoiding it. My other fear is that it would lead to promiscuity but then again I guess the issue there is a trust one on my side. I probably just need to weigh up the pros and cons of the relationship and figure out if my boyfirends masturbation really is a big deal for me in the grand scheme of things.

zxcvbnm1

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi OP,

I'd be abit sceptical on the above points, obviously people above also do this. Should sex not be about just two people and not porn on the internet too.

OP i'd be a bit worried of the internet, while I would agree masterbation is a natural thing. Continual behaviour could lead to a wandering eye if your sex life reduces.

Good luck.

That's nonsense. I am assuming you are female ?

Porn and masturbation for a male is nothing other than a physical gratfifcation for that moment in time.

It is not in any way linked to wandering eye.

OP - I can speak from experience as a male and say with certainty that this does not in any way indicate that he may be losing interest in you.

challengemaster

Every guy ****. If he's doing it in the morning it just means he wakes up with some "wood" - Happens to most guys, some ignore it, some get rid of it other ways....

If you already dont....You should masturbate too - very stress relieving, if anything!

LegacyUser

Yeah morning wood and masterbation are normal but to porn all the time??

OP, you have to ask yourself the question if he **** to porn when you are around. What will he do when your not?

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and we are very happy together. We dont live together but are able to enjoy a regular sex life. The issue is that my boyfriend has admited to me that he masturbates when im not around. Like if we have sex one night he'll masturbate the next morning when im not there. I also know that hes not thinking of me everytime he **** because I have found porn sites on his computer. Is this normal for gusy to do? Or is it a case that hes loosing interest in me or that im not satisfying him? Shoudl I be worried?

This is totally normal for most guys and a very normal thing to do. You dont know for sure he is not thinking of you when he **** and if he wasnt it does not matter as porn is part of the fantasy world. What is real is when he is with you and masturbation is doing him or you no harm and certainly not your relationship, only if you let it. I mean as a girl, do you ever masurbate? If you dont feel the need thats cool, everyone has their own level of sexual needs and desires, his may be just more than yours at present, its just a biological need, not an emotional need

tbh

Unregistered wrote: »

I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and we are very happy together. We dont live together but are able to enjoy a regular sex life. The issue is that my boyfriend has admited to me that he masturbates when im not around. Like if we have sex one night he'll masturbate the next morning when im not there. I also know that hes not thinking of me everytime he **** because I have found porn sites on his computer. Is this normal for gusy to do? Or is it a case that hes loosing interest in me or that im not satisfying him? Shoudl I be worried?

as long as he's not masturbating instead of having sex with you, I wouldn't worry about it. If he was looking for sex every time he wanted to masturbate, trust me, you'd be locking him in the shed with a copy of razzle.

LegacyUser

completely normal

i am girl and i do it when the OH isnt around (yes, with porn)

Permabear

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tbh

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I don’t do it enough myself and usually create excuses for avoiding it.

:eek:what kind of parties are you going to?

If you don't want to do it, it's no big deal

redhead82

It is perfectly normal for a guy to look at porn! You have no reason to worry, you should be happy that he's getting it from the net and not in the flesh! This came up in my lasst relationship as well, and yea, I was shocked, worried and disgusted at first. But hey, single or not, every guy looks at porn when the OH isn't around. It's normal, you should be happy that he's getting the physical from you. And when you're not around he gets it from the net. At least you know he's not getting it from anywhere else!
Don't be worried, It's normal

Annie Bananie

Unregistered wrote: »

completely normal

i am girl and i do it when the OH isnt around (yes, with porn)

+1

I do it to porn, my bf does it to porn. Nothing strange really.
OP dont worry, I think half the world does it

aidan24326

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi OP,

I'd be abit sceptical on the above points, obviously people above also do this. Should sex not be about just two people and not porn on the internet too.

OP i'd be a bit worried of the internet, while I would agree masterbation is a natural thing. Continual behaviour could lead to a wandering eye if your sex life reduces.

Good luck.

That is just complete nonsense. She didn't mention 'continual' anything, she said he masturbates when she's not around (100% normal) and looks at porn sometimes (also perfectly normal). Your suggestion that this may lead to a wandering eye is without any basis whatsoever.

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

OP - I can speak from experience as a male and say with certainty that this does not in any way indicate that he may be losing interest in you.

+1.

All pretty normal run-of-the-mill behaviour, so OP you really don't have anything to worry about here.