Threesome fantasy

LegacyUser

Hello, my post may seem unusual for a married guy but here it goes(its a bit long winded). I am married 8 years now and about 5 years ago a fantasy started to manifest regarding having a 3some with my wife and another girl. This did not come to pass and my wife was reluctant with the whole idea. Anyway, with a lot of presuasion/discussion we finally met another couple from a swinging site. We hit it off quite well the first time and at the end of the night, we ended up having a snog with each others partners. this actualy happened after we had quite a few drinks. It was a bit of a surreal vision seeing my wife kissing another guy for the first time and to desciribe it was like having butterflies in the tummy, shocked nervous but while we were together later and having sex, the thought of it really turned me on. Now we met that couple again a week later and we agreed to go back to their place. The other couples wife was very much bi and she was mainy interested in being with my wife. It was agreed that they go off alone to the bedroom and they would call us later to join them when they were ready. about 30 mins later we were called to the room (myself and the other husband) and found the two girls in bed waiting for us(they had already engaged in oral). (this couple were very experienced in swinging) anyway we both stripped and got into bed beside our respective partners and started kissing, then the other guy took the lead and reached over and massaged my wifes breast and in turn then moved acroos to her while i got out and moved over to his wife. anyway to cut a long story short, we only engaged in soft swap no intercourse but we engaged in oral. I found i was more interested in watching her perform than i was doing anything with this guys wife. Years have passed and we have never done anything like that again as my wife is not interested. The problem is I cant seem to get that image out of mind and I seem to be really turned on by the idea of my wife having sex with someone else(a guy). It is still used as part of our lovemaking talk etc and I my wish is to have a 3some with my wife and another guy, but me mainly just watching. Is there something really wrong with me or are there any other guys out there who have similar thought/fantasies?

tolteq

hmmmm. you could try the Sexuality forum with this one. how on earth do you manage watching ur wife with another man. its probably rare to want something like that. but hey. we all have desires. hmmmm.

there was another guy on there talking bout his girlfriend wanting a threesome. i think u just need to hunt about for somebody. but make sure your wife would be happy with all this. to my mind its very bizarre. but each to his (or her) own

Xiney

tolteq, calling someone's sexual desires bizarre or rare is in no way helpful or on topic. Infracted.

LegacyUser

I know where you are coming from, I am married over 10 years and as a couple we can talk about anything all perversion's ,anyway I started to ask my wife her ex's and what they got up to in the sack, I could not believe how turned on I got while making love to her when she talked about giving him head,when they bonked on a train etc, it has now become part of our bedroom fun, now not all the time just sometimes about once or twice a month, we make love about 4 times a weeks, now I have thought about doing something naughty when we are out, like pretending we are just friends and letting some guy chat her up and the idea is that we might go as far as her kissing him in front of me.the thoughts take me to the limit and the limit feels really crazy and horny.and yes the thought of her going down on a guy in front of me is mind blowing, I know where you are coming from.

LegacyUser

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I know where you are coming from, I am married over 10 years and as a couple we can talk about anything all perversion's ,anyway I started to ask my wife her ex's and what they got up to in the sack, I could not believe how turned on I got while making love to her when she talked about giving him head,when they bonked on a train etc, it has now become part of our bedroom fun, now not all the time just sometimes about once or twice a month, we make love about 4 times a weeks, now I have thought about doing something naughty when we are out, like pretending we are just friends and letting some guy chat her up and the idea is that we might go as far as her kissing him in front of me.the thoughts take me to the limit and the limit feels really crazy and horny.and yes the thought of her going down on a guy in front of me is mind blowing, I know where you are coming from.

Thanks for that, good to know Im not the only one. You are right about the limit, where nerves and excitement merge to heighten the hornyness.

LegacyUser

Hi mate,

This is a pretty common fantasy that many men, including me, enjoy. It is referred to a being a " cuckold " and there are many sites / communities that provide information. A simple google search of the word will get you started.

Like yourself, me and my gf fantastise a lot about this. Whether we would ever put it into practice is another matter. We have discussed swinging, but you have to be sure the emotional aspect and it's implications are fully discussed. If you have a strong relationship you can do it, but it can also go horribly wrong - we are not yet ready to cope with the jealousy and upset it can cause - once you do it, you cannot just erase the memories.

The reasons and theory behind the thoughts are complex and far reaching - it can be 1)that you might have low self esteem, whereby you think another man might be able to satisfy her more than you 2 ) would like an ego boost that the woman you love is desired by another man 3) that you or your partner wish to be humitiliated 4) you are openminded people who wish to explore their sexuality fully 5) you feel your previous experiences are not up to what you expected and that you want to push for more thrills 6 ) that you have some homeerotic urges and wish to see a good looking man " in action "

There are many more ideas, but tbh if it is something you are happy with you should go for it but think it through, DO NOT risk your relationship if you are worried of jealousy coming in after the event.