Why do people do this???

LegacyUser

I met a girl online there a few weeks ago. She wrote to me and seemed really cool, when we got chatting we have a lot in common and get on well, and even have a mutual friend, so it was looking good. We arranged a date, went out during week, I planned a nice date and we had a really great time, conversation flowed well all night. Had a kiss a few times, and at the end she grabbed me for the goodnight kiss... When she got home she sent me a text to say thanks for a great night. I was happy. It was not love at first sight but we had a great time and I thought it went well!

We had a few texts back and forward, but then none for 3 days as I was away. When I got back I texted her, but heard nothing... 3 days later I wrote a quick hello email - but again I got nothing back.

Ok so I'm gathering she's probably just not interested. That's cool, you can't like everyone, but don't you think its really rude for someone to just cease communication? Maybe teenagers can do it but late twenties should be more mature. I would way prefer for her to just say: "You're a nice guy, I had fun - but I'm just not feeling it and don't see it going any further..." - I'm straignt up like that with girls - no point in bullsh!tting really.

Anyway, I was thinking of wirting a quick email saying something along the lines of: It's ok if you don't want to see me again - we can always stay friends etc - but at least come out and be honest about it....

Would you do something like this, or would you just forget about it?

starchild

it could be anything, she might be on hols, she might be ill or she may just not be interested
personally i think you should just ring her once and see how you get on

you will know a lot quicker than waiting on a text or email

Beth1978

As hard as it might be I'd just let it lie. You've tried to make contact with her twice now so I'd leave it at that. If she wants to get in touch with you she knows how to reach you. True something might be going on with her right now but you can't read people's minds so how are you to know. I'm all one for getting closure and really wish if someone wanted to end things they'd do the decent thing and be upfront and honest....but some people just aren't like that.

I'm really sorry that she hasn't been in touch with you. Not everyone is like that, trust me. Keep going onwards and upwards and you'll find the right one.

tolteq

dater999 wrote: »

I met a girl online there a few weeks ago. She wrote to me and seemed really cool, when we got chatting we have a lot in common and get on well, and even have a mutual friend, so it was looking good. We arranged a date, went out during week, I planned a nice date and we had a really great time, conversation flowed well all night. Had a kiss a few times, and at the end she grabbed me for the goodnight kiss... When she got home she sent me a text to say thanks for a great night. I was happy. It was not love at first sight but we had a great time and I thought it went well!

We had a few texts back and forward, but then none for 3 days as I was away. When I got back I texted her, but heard nothing... 3 days later I wrote a quick hello email - but again I got nothing back.

Ok so I'm gathering she's probably just not interested. That's cool, you can't like everyone, but don't you think its really rude for someone to just cease communication? Maybe teenagers can do it but late twenties should be more mature. I would way prefer for her to just say: "You're a nice guy, I had fun - but I'm just not feeling it and don't see it going any further..." - I'm straignt up like that with girls - no point in bullsh!tting really.

Anyway, I was thinking of wirting a quick email saying something along the lines of: It's ok if you don't want to see me again - we can always stay friends etc - but at least come out and be honest about it....

Would you do something like this, or would you just forget about it?

dont bother with her. it'll only cause u more annoyance. try another girl.

LegacyUser

As the other posters say..just leave her and move on..I am, unfortunately, an experienced net dater...If she's interested she'll contact you !!

Firetrap

Yes, it would be more courteous of her to let you know that she's not interested but a lot of people find it easier not to go there and simply ignore the other person til they take the hint and go away. Sorry it didn't work out for you OP

LegacyUser

write her number down and delete it from your phone so you don't end up sending any drunk "you're just rude" messages, I've done that once too often, it doesn't make them any more inclined to reply and it just makes you feel worse