31 & never been in a relationship!

LegacyUser

Hi all

I'm a 31 year old female and I've never been in a relationship with a guy....is this a total put off for a man? I have some sexual experience but not alot. I'm just incredibly shy and have never been good at chatting with men when I'm out. I don't really know how to 'play the games' as such so don't know how to be seen as relationship material or to make them want me. I think I'm a grand looking girl and I know I'm a nice person as I have friends, etc. and they think the same. Its just difficult to meet guys.

If anyone has any advice or thoughts I'd really appreciate it. Thanks.

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ronkmonster

you not 'playing games' is a good thing.

agree with donegalfella, stay away from clubs for meeting lads. not really the best place even if not shy.

starchild

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i think the above says it all, you could also try a reputable dating agency and i stress reputable if you wanted, i know 2 people who did this after years of no luck with pub club scene and both of them ended up married from it.

I know thats not always the case but it might be worth a shot and i would say you would certainly have some fun

LegacyUser

Thanks for your words. I've joined two groups over the last few months but haven't met any men yet who seem interested. And I know I shouldn't be on the lookout as such as I know thats a total turn off for guys....there's that game playing again! : ) I just turn into a nervous wreck when a guy is around...and that's not an attractive thing, trust me! I wouldn't have a huge amount of confidence and tend to feel a little inferior when prettier girls are around but I am trying my best to work on that....I know I'm worth going out with.

I've tried internet dating and found I'm quite good at the banter behind a laptop screen but as soon as I have to meet someone I turn into jelly. I force myself to go but because I'm so shy, I guess I don't come across well. Eek!

I'm just afraid I'll end up alone....with cats or something cliche like that! : )

starchild

im glad you say you know your worth going out with, keep that in mind and you will definitely not end up alone

keep doing what your doing and all will be fine. Im new enough to boards and have never been to any meet ups but i often see great reports of them, why dont you register on this site and maybe go to one of them

LegacyUser

Thanks starchild, good advice, I'll keep an eye out but honestly, the thoughts of walking into a room full of strangers sounds like my worst nightmare! : ) But I am trying to be positive and push myself more into meeting people. Please God something will work out for me and I'll end up in a relationship. Thanks again, really appreciate it.

tolteq

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi all

I'm a 31 year old female and I've never been in a relationship with a guy....is this a total put off for a man? I have some sexual experience but not alot. I'm just incredibly shy and have never been good at chatting with men when I'm out. I don't really know how to 'play the games' as such so don't know how to be seen as relationship material or to make them want me. I think I'm a grand looking girl and I know I'm a nice person as I have friends, etc. and they think the same. Its just difficult to meet guys.

If anyone has any advice or thoughts I'd really appreciate it. Thanks.

get into the habit of talking to people u dont know

LegacyUser

Don't despair, I'm 32 now, met my first boyfriend when I was 30 after years of thinking I was going to be left on the shelf. Am convinced it only happened for me when I stopped stressing about it and started getting busy with work and other things. Of about 15 girls I know, only one of them met their partner in a pub, its the worst place to meet a partner. Stick to social clubs etc and have some fun for yourself. I met my guy in work!!! Good luck and don't loose heart, "whats for you won't pass by you!"

poss

Unregistered wrote: »

Hi all

I'm a 31 year old female and I've never been in a relationship with a guy....is this a total put off for a man? I have some sexual experience but not alot. I'm just incredibly shy and have never been good at chatting with men when I'm out. I don't really know how to 'play the games' as such so don't know how to be seen as relationship material or to make them want me. I think I'm a grand looking girl and I know I'm a nice person as I have friends, etc. and they think the same. Its just difficult to meet guys.

If anyone has any advice or thoughts I'd really appreciate it. Thanks.

Believe me, there's plenty of single people both male and female who've never had a relationship from the ages of 30+...even 40+.

It's the way things work out sometimes, in that people just don't meet the right person over an considerable amount of time....you're definitely not alone.

Firetrap

OP don't worry about it. I know where you're coming from. I just wanted to add that even if you don't meet any guys in the groups you've gotten involved with, that doesn't mean that you can't meet someone. Perhaps some of the women in your group have brothers/cousins/male friends and you might meet them at some stage. Keep plugging away - hopefully some day your prints prince will come in