No Contact from other half

LegacyUser

My OH went interrailing on Monday.

He went to Amsterdam and was supposed to get the train to Berlin today.

I got one text message from him yesterday saying "having fun, talk to you soon". this was the first contact since he left and i've heard nothing since. I've sent him three messages asking how he was, did he arrive safely etc.

Am i being too pushy? Is it wrong for me to want to hear more from him? I know he's on holidays but we've been going out over a year now and i never guessed he was the kind of person to just drop off peoples radars, particulariily their OH's, when they went away.

Any advice?

pookie82

On the one hand, he's just gone off on his holidays, may be out of coverage, is bound to be feeling very free and having fun, and keeping tabs at home is probably the last thing on his mind.

On the other hand, a phone call wouldn't hurt (it has been a week!) and regardless of his excitment/location etc it's good manners to call and let you know he's ok. A lack of contact this soon into his trip doesnt really bode that well. Having said that, then the shine wears off the excitment of leaving, he may get in touch more.

I would calm down on the texts, try to wait for him to contact you next. Gently but firmly explain that although you don't intend to be a burden you'd appreciate him checking in with you now and again to establish safety etc. Not to mention that fact that he should WANT to if you guys are a couple.

Faith

Are you on Meteor? I know my friends who went interrailing very rarely got decent coverage in many countries, and used just phone with phone cards from payphones and things. His phone might be dead, out of credit, or just not working. Try emailing him instead.

Also, he only left on Monday. I know it's hard, but give him a chance to settling into the interrailing lifestyle. You're at home missing him, making it seem longer and more serious to you, but he's off having great fun and times probably flying. Do try and give him some space, so he doesn't begin to resent you.

banshee_bones

I understand you miss him but when you are on holiday there are lots of things keeping you occupied especially if you are interrailing. So just try and relax and dont keep sending messages!

ManOfMystery

On the one hand, as stated, he's on holiday and having fun etc. Texts at back of his mind.

On the other hand, speaking from personal experience, when I go away anywhere my gf will always be top of my list and I will gladly let her know what I'm doing and where I am. She's an important part of my life so why would I suddenly shut her out? I would find it strange going for days on end without communicating with her.

IMO it's a bit weird. Are you in touch with his family or friends - have they heard from him?

tolteq

sure you will see him when he gets back

cant you focus on doing something else in the mean time?