Don't know whats going on! Help :(

LegacyUser

In a relationship a few years now, been going great up until the past year or so... But I'm not getting why. A while ago, there was a couple of things that have been sorted/ getting sorted and we are working through them (Both agreed that we would work through them together because we want it to work....)

We've had numerous conversations about how things are going and saying we want it to work etc, will work at it and all the rest. So why do I still feel neglected?!

I'm never thrown a compliment, even when dressed to impress.
Rarely told "I love you".
Hardly kissed or cuddled (I have to try and always initiate things)
I feel like a disease most of the time the way things are.

Haven't had any kind of physical intimacy for quite a while now...

But yet, we want to work through it...

Little help?

Wurly

Is there any chance that you are over giving in the relationship? And I mean either emotionally or physically. Or both....

Cos the thing is.. If you give too much, it can come back to bite you on the bum.

If you keep giving, he will think that the level of 'romance' he is displaying is grand. Even if it's non existent.

Has it always been this way or has he just fallen into this in the past year?

It could be laziness. Have you told him how unappreciated you feel?

LegacyUser

We've spoken about it before, just says that things will change and sorry for acting like that, doesn't realise until after.
You could be right because I do give and give (I feel as if I am anyway) and feel I am getting nothing in return.
It hasn't always been like this no, just in the last couple of months/ year.
What am I to do to fix it? Back off?

tolteq

mirror,mirror wrote: »

We've spoken about it before, just says that things will change and sorry for acting like that, doesn't realise until after.
You could be right because I do give and give (I feel as if I am anyway) and feel I am getting nothing in return.
It hasn't always been like this no, just in the last couple of months/ year.
What am I to do to fix it? Back off?

Yes actually. that might work, because when ur away you tend to miss what you have you know.

LegacyUser

Yeah, I'll give that a try.
If all else fails we'll know how it turns out.

Thank you all for your help

togster

It shouldn't really be so hard. Maybe simply stop over-trying.