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Will I ever get over or get back with my ex?

  • 01-06-2009 10:50pm
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    LegacyUser
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    Was with a guy for 3 years, things got turbulent, the last year between us was very on/off - (always him breaking up with me and then changing his mind) So, we broke up for the last time 2 years ago and a lot of things came to light - mainly my eating disorder.....I'd been suffering from bulimia and he really did have to put up with a lot of my crap.

    I was eventually honest and he was a great friend helping me through my recovery, i got control of my food but expected us to get back together and then realised it wasn't going to happen. We still talked a lot and were very close but he just seemed to be completely over me, though we have ended up in bed a good bit together.

    We went 3 months with no contact because i was at my wits end wanting to get back together and he was on the one hand telling me he needed me in his life and on the other saying not as a girlfriend.

    We did do 3 months no contact on my request when i just felt like i couldn't take it anymore, I actually did quite well, moved on but it ended in him totally losing the plot and saying he thought about me every day and couldn't live without me and yet....not as a girlfriend. I said i would be his shoulder through a tough time and i have been, but i'm just crazy about him again, really want us to get back together but i would never even suggest it. He watched a DVD with me on Saturday night in my apt, and i went shopping with him today to help him buy clothes for his new job.

    It hurts me so much that he is so close to me and has even said he will never have the same "banter" with anyone else, he;s said he wants a girlfriend so much right now, just not me :( He said he can never imagine us ever being together again.

    I have had a few relapses and am 100% not out of the woods, nore am i ready to be in a relationship with anyone, but hes going to America for a year in July and i would love him to *realise* what we have and maybe work something out when he comes home.....am i just fooling myself? I even went out with another guy for 4 months, i wanna move on so much but i am just so in love with him.

    What can i do?


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