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How long from engagement to marriege?

  • 01-06-2009 1:23pm
    #1
    ciencin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 74 ✭✭


    How long do people usually wait to get married after the engagement?
    Is a year or 2 years too much? Or is anything after 1 year bad?

    (I'm new to this :)


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  • #2
    PCPhoto
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,584 ✭✭✭PCPhoto


    generally the younger and financially unstable you are the longer the engagement :

    its really a subject you would need to discuss with your partner: I think maybe 12-18months is normal - but some people take the time to gather money so could be 2-3years


  • #3
    omahaid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,497 ✭✭✭omahaid


    We're on about 7 years now :-) got engaged before college, getting married next april :-) I suspect its another case of "to each his own"


  • #4
    Eoin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,263 ✭✭✭✭Eoin


    It also depends on what your plans are for the wedding day itself. If you're picky about the date and/or venue, then you may well have no choice but to wait over a year. Either way, what's the rush?


  • #5
    aoibhebree
    Closed Accounts Posts: 467 ✭✭aoibhebree


    ciencin wrote: »
    Or is anything after 1 year bad?

    Exactly what do you mean by "bad"? :confused: You should get married when and if you want to and can afford it ... is it other peoples' opinions you're worried about???

    I'd imagine about 2-3 years after the engagement is probably the norm ... For me it'll probably be about six years, as my fiance and I have other things we want to do first.


  • #6
    tannytantans
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 302 ✭✭tannytantans


    We'll be engaged 2 and a half years when we get married but thats mainly cos we're off travelling at the minute so when we return we'll have 18 months to organise everything.

    I would say the average is about 1-2 years but it totally depends on your circumstances and what you want. It takes time to save all that money!!!!


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  • #7
    Redpunto
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,024 ✭✭✭Redpunto


    we're engaged nearly 10 years - get married when you want to get married, theres no norm


  • #8
    esharknz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 267 ✭✭esharknz


    Waiting 22 months. But each to their own, my aunty has been engaged for 30 years I believe. They are now saying that superannuation doesn't cover the cost of a wedding (about $150 NZ), so I can't see it happening!


  • #9
    TiwstaSista
    Closed Accounts Posts: 76 ✭✭TiwstaSista


    Typical engagement period from the time of proposal to exchanging of vows is 8 to 12 months. Although for some couples, even a year may be a long time, particularly if their lives are in a state of upheaval and they’re experiencing a lot of changes, or if they’ve already been together for several years. On the other hand, for a couple planning an elaborate wedding or with other immediate concerns, even two years may not seem long. What makes a very long engagement depends on the couple, and even though a few months may seem like an eternity when you are eager to begin your life together, those planning months are critical to developing your relationship for a successful marriage.


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