Dilemma - dating older woman

Mr. P

Last week when i was in town (Dublin) I met an older woman in a bar. We got on well and towards the end of the night I got her number. Last night I went on a date with her and it went very well. We had a very enjoyable evening. However I have some niggling doubts in my mind. She is alot older than me and i presume more experienced. I'm 30 happy go lucky and laid back guy while she is a 42 single mum with an 18 year old daughter. She looks absolutley stunning for her age as she regularly goes to the gym. She is foreign (EE) and has been living in Ireland for a number of years. She is very charming and has a lovely and warm personality.

I'm worried about what my friends and parents will think if i'm with this woman. She has not introduced me to her daughter or her own circle of friends yet. I feel slightly awkward. What should i do? am I being a bit silly and insecure?

BlackandGold

You only met her last week so she's unlikely to introduce you to her close family and friends just yet! I don't see what the problem is here.

There are so many threads about age differences yet none of the people have an issue with it themselves - it's others opinions they have issues with! For example, what will my friends think, what will her mother think, what will the guys at work think? Who cares what they think, they're not in the position you're in!

Go with the flow; if you like her and she likes you then see how it goes! You've only just met her so things may not even develop for you.

To be honest, people often have an opinion different to the one they'd have if they were in the situation themselves. Hey, am sure they'd be jealous of the older experienced women you've gotten yourself

Soul Stretcher

+1

Don't see what the problem here is...

I'm a 30 yr old lad and I'm slightly jealous !!

There's only two people in the world that matter as far as this potential relationship goes - you and her. Simple as...

If the only reason you are having second thoughts is because you are worried what other people will think, you need to man up tbh....are you 13 or 30 ??

Happiness is too precious to risk throwing it away because of some distorted thinking in your head.

Stop over-analyzing it and go with the flow and enjoy !

Good Luck

OneArt

You're thirty. Unless they have some kind of financial hold over you, don't worry what your parents think.

AARRRGH

Stop worrying what other people think, and start living your life the way you want to.

Most people are unable to follow the above sentence, but if you can manage it, you'll be a lot happier than the average person.

Milky Joe

as always, its only an issue if you let it be an issue. And if other people take issue with it, thats their problem, and anyway some people will make comments and judge you no matter what you do! Just dont let it get to you not worth it

Acoustic

only an issue id say if u want to have kids

if u dont then , dont listen to begrudgers

just do your thing

GigaByte

I met a 42 year old woman when I was 26 and I ended up going out with her for 7 years. My friends didn't care and neither did my parents not that any of that would have mattered.

Have fun and see where it goes...

STUBBORNGIRL

Age is only a number Op - if you are happy being with this woman then why not enjoy getting to know her better - it only has been a week after all! Where would we all be, if we were to start worrying about what other people thought!! It's no one elses business but your own - your life and live it the way you want to - as long as you are not stepping on anyones toes that is!!

Also as another poster pointed out there may be an issue if you wanted kids - but hell if a 66year old can give birth then that in itself doesnt seem a problem anymore!!

Enjoy yourself OP - if it doesnt work out it doesnt, but dont walk away from it without trying!! you may end up regretting it!! (esp when all your friends are married and you are on your own always wondering what could have been)

take care op! `

CDfm

If you were a woman and the genders were reversed there would not be a problem.

Do you really worry that much what your friends think?

cafecolour

Yeah, you are being a bit silly and insecure. At this point, younger men with older women are pretty well accepted culturally, especially when they are hot older women MILF is part of the cultural lexicon.

It's a little soon to introduce her to your friends and vice versa - you'd want to go on a few more dates. And it's not like you have to introduce her as 'this the aul one I'm shifting'. Introduce her, and if the age comes out (or the daughter), take pleasure in their shock that she doesn't look anywhere near that age.