Delayed Reaction

RubyXI

Hi guys. I broke up with my bf about 6 weeks ago. We were together 3 years. I cried when it happened but after that i was pretty fine about it.
But now litterly a few minits ago it felt like my whole world collapsed. I don't know why now. I mea a had a bit of a fight with a friend but could it really be a seriously delayed reaction to the break up? Or am i just being rediculous.

af_thefragile

Yup it happens. Sometimes it takes time for events like such to totally sink and you start to realise and notice how things have changed.
It is a **** feeling.

I don't know if there's much you can do about it. Time is the greatest healer.
I'ld say you should just try to keep yourself busy. Try to not think about it too much. Just find other things to do that can keep your mind occupied. Watch movies, go outside, read books, ya know anything to keep yourself busy and not give yourself the time to think too much about it all.

Cuz no mater what you do, you can't change the reality of things. Sometimes you've get gotta suck it all up and carry on with life.

So just leave it to time to heal you. Till then just try to stay positive about things and find happiness in all those little things that make you happy!!

smk89

I broke up with my gf 5 weeks ago and we were together 2 years. I was the same with the sadness and then I was over it after a few days. But since then ive been having the wierd feeling that I havn't accepted it.
I had depression for several months when we broke up and now I'm happy(ish) and it seams weird. yest i had a bad day and suppendly I felt like I was spiraling round the edge of depression again but then it suddendly dissappeared.
I think if you think its delayed reaction it prob is after all u know urself better than anyone.
Personally there isn't a day goes by that I dont think of my gf and I hate it.

af_thefragile

smk89 wrote: »

I broke up with my gf 5 weeks ago and we were together 2 years. I was the same with the sadness and then I was over it after a few days. But since then ive been having the wierd feeling that I havn't accepted it.
I had depression for several months when we broke up and now I'm happy(ish) and it seams weird. yest i had a bad day and suppendly I felt like I was spiraling round the edge of depression again but then it suddendly dissappeared.
I think if you think its delayed reaction it prob is after all u know urself better than anyone.
Personally there isn't a day goes by that I dont think of my gf and I hate it.

Well, it took me almost a year to get over my ex.
Mostly cuz of the way it ended i'ld say. And cuz it happened right before the summer, i ended up wasting the whole summer dwelling in her memories and how my life had changed since she had gone. Bad Bad idea!!!
All cuz i had little else to occupy myself with.

Even I felt fine for a couple of weeks after the break up. But it was probably cuz i felt i could carry on fine without her in my life anymore and i'ld soon bounce back and everything would be great. Well, the fact that none of those things happened hit me as a bitter reality and that was when it all sunk in. Which could explain the delayed reaction. And i had a horrible summer.

But from what i've learnt, the best thing to do is just to just ride out the storm. Wait for it to pass your by and during that time try you best to keep yourself as busy as you can so you can pay little attention to the storm.
Right now the more you dwell in it, the worse you'll make it for yourself.
Maybe after 3 or 4 months, when you're getting on fine with your life, you could look back and see where things went wrong, learn from it and find your closure. But for now, wrap it up, box it and stack it on top of a shelf and just leave it there in that corner. Don't pay any attention to it. Find better things to do with your life!