Nobody wants a friendly giant

LegacyUser

I'm a fella in my late 20s.

I'm told that I'm not bad looks wise, have a good personality and a good group of friends.

I have never been kissed, and obviously never had a girlfriend.

The reason - I'm 6 foot 8 and look like some kind of freak alongside any girl.

Now I know there is a common perception that girls go mad for tall fellas but once you are over 6 foot I think you are just that bit too tall!

Sinall

OP, if you are self conscious about something you are probably portraying an unconfident, self-conscious image to others. People often have hang-ups about the way they look and this is reflected in how they interact with other people. The first step would be for you to become comfortable with yourself.

I am five foot four myself and have been out with guys a lot taller than me. I don't consider how I look next to them-I like a guy if he is a good person, funny with a good personality- which from your post it sound like you have! I have also gone out with a guy who was about the same height as me. For me there were a lot of different factors at play!

The point that I am, probably badly, trying to make is that if you learn to relax more this probably won't be an issue for you any longer.

LegacyUser

My advice would be to find a really tall girl. To a tall girl there is no such thing as "too tall" when it comes to men.

One of the problems of being a tall girl is that you're taller than a lot of men, and it can be hard for some girls to feel feminine when you're taller than the guy you're going out with.

It's great that you recognise all the things you have going for you, and I know it's easier said than done, but you can turn your height into a positive. There are plenty of tall girls out there who will think your height is brilliant.

Good luck with it!

Tuesday_Girl

Sinall is right. I live in Holland, along with some of the tallest people in the world, and every day I see couples with a height difference of a foot and a half, sometimes more. Two of my friends are around 5' 3" and they are married to guys who are 6' 6", to be honest all I see when I look at then is 2 really happy couples.

If you don't see it as a problem, other people won't either

LegacyUser

Well I'm 5'3 and had relationship with someone 6'8.

There is a minority of girls who are into tall/freaky tall guys. For me 6 foot is ideal but very tall is ok too. I'm not going to say it can't be a physical problem, even having a conversation as you walk down the road can be difficult as you know, and we had a sex prob as well (very long!), but there's also something very nice about being with a tall guy. But he broke up with me for some else so no, your height is not the end of the world!! Work on CONFIDENCE!
Also try to stay fit. Some very tall guys are too too skinny. Keep some weight and muscle on.

BumbleB

I'm 6'6 and yes I may be a freak of nature but it doesn't bother me. I would totally disagree with you.I think it's a big advantage . I find wherever I go women just kind of gather around and women initiate conversation.I dont really get it personally because I'm no Johnny Depp.


Back to you.You're probably self concious which every single tall person goes through and by early 20's has it knocked on the head because you have to deal with it.


My advice is you should get out of your head (Far too many people live in their head fantasising about stuff ,get into the present) also called mindfulness ,stop thinking about what you think people are thinking especially girls. Being tall didn't stop vince vaugn ,liam neeson ,Joey ramone ,michael jordan and many others from getting into relationships.

Walk around with a bit of a strut put a huge smile on your face and observe ,you will probably find quite a few girls do actually check you out some will be obviously into you and some won't ,well,that's the way the cookie crumbles.

Also knock this idea of friendly giant out of your head a " friendly giant " is not a s**y self image . P.s also having a u/n like Bumble B isn't s**y either.

Being tall should give you the edge anywhere but in Holland and Scandinavia but as a previous person said you have to act confident .Fake it to you:) make it.

CathyMoran

I would have thought that there are a lot of girls who find tall men attractive - I know that I did. As the other posters are saying, you just need a bit more confidence. Oh, my first bf was 6ft 4in and I am 5ft 2in, actually most of them were well over 6ft.

username123

CathyMoran wrote: »

I would have thought that there are a lot of girls who find tall men attractive - I know that I did. As the other posters are saying, you just need a bit more confidence. Oh, my first bf was 6ft 4in and I am 5ft 2in, actually most of them were well over 6ft.

Cathymoran, youre me Im 5ft 2in and my OH is 6ft 4in, Ive always gone for tall fellas.

OP - Ive known 2 different 6ft 8in guys and never thought it freakish at all - and for the most part the ladies loved it.

Its self confidence and self esteem you need, if wouldnt matter if youre a midget or a giant if you have enough self confidence. Work on yourself in that regard and you may find changes happen for you.

aare

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm a fella in my late 20s.

I'm told that I'm not bad looks wise, have a good personality and a good group of friends.

I have never been kissed, and obviously never had a girlfriend.

The reason - I'm 6 foot 8 and look like some kind of freak alongside any girl.

Now I know there is a common perception that girls go mad for tall fellas but once you are over 6 foot I think you are just that bit too tall!

(Late 20s, 6'8" and NEVER BEEN KISSED?? WHAT a waste! :eek:)

I have been 6 feet tall since I was 12 (unfortunately, an inappropriately long time ago or I would be hitting on you like there was no tomorrow...as is, if I did that, your Mum would be right to kill me, if the mods didn't get me first... ).

It has never been a problem attracting guys...but that lovely, girly "fragile, dainty and wee" feeling has been in exceptionally short supply...

I met a guy who was 7 foot once (safely married, and old enough to be, at least, my uncle...aren't they always...unless they are gay...), and even though I am about the least "touchy, feely, new-agey" person on the planet I HAD to get a hug off him, just to see what it feels like...

You are obviously projecting your (misguidedly) poor self image like a lightship...please stop doing that...

Trust me, there are LOADS of women like me...looking at this HOT guy, who is a head taller than them, and saying to themselves:

"Nope, I don't get that lucky"...

So you just need to be confident and assertive...

Nervous Wreck

I haven't read the entire thread but I've seen some good advice offered. I'd just like to add one thing. I have a female friend who won't go NEAR a guy that's shorter than 6'2".... She's about 6'2" herself and would never go for anyone shorter cos she's really conscious of her height.... Just a small* point.....



*:pac:;)

Lou.m

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm a fella in my late 20s.

I'm told that I'm not bad looks wise, have a good personality and a good group of friends.

I have never been kissed, and obviously never had a girlfriend.

The reason - I'm 6 foot 8 and look like some kind of freak alongside any girl.

Now I know there is a common perception that girls go mad for tall fellas but once you are over 6 foot I think you are just that bit too tall!

I know a french guy who used ot be in the same position maybe even taller than you.

He was in his thirties and never had a girlfriend.

He is now happily in a relationship.

And do you know why?

Because he made up his mind that he wanted to be in one!

So he went out and met people kept his life open and made people see him!

And not the height!

By the way i find really tall men SEXY :-):P:P;)

And i am not just saying that i do!
I have been known to look out for them:-)

I am sure lots of girls out there would love to spend some time with you if you opened up to them and just went out there and had some fun:-)

You could go for a tall girl but they are hard to find!

I say go for any girl yo like and see if she likes you:-)

Look at it this way you stnad out in a crowd !!

USE THAT!!!

USE THE ATTENTION MAKE IT A POSITIVE THING!!:-)

We are all unique:-)

legend365

Tall, dark and hansom.

You said you already have 2 of em!

Im 6'4 myself and usually dont notice that much of a difference even with some friends who are just over 5'.

I remember i came across 7 foot twins before on a night out. The ladies would'nt leave em alone!

SarahSassy

My OH is way taller than me (well over a foot) and I love it.... I know plenty of girls 5 10 or 6 foot who would love to meet a tall guy. They have the problem than in general Irish men are pretty average height and the girls dont appear to find men shorter than them attractive...

OksanaLV

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm a fella in my late 20s.

I'm told that I'm not bad looks wise, have a good personality and a good group of friends.

I have never been kissed, and obviously never had a girlfriend.

The reason - I'm 6 foot 8 and look like some kind of freak alongside any girl.

Now I know there is a common perception that girls go mad for tall fellas but once you are over 6 foot I think you are just that bit too tall!

Oh come on get real. Late 20s and never kissed a girl. What have you been doing all along until now? Are you serious? Listen, you have to get out of that negative mindset that you have. The reason why you are still a virgin in your late 20s is because you want to think that way. Shake yourself out of that mindset and get a life. Liven up for goodness sake. Dont use your height as a negative. Next time when you go out, big smile on your face, walk up straight and say 'hi' You would be amazed how far it will get you with the ladies. I'm 5 feet 8 inches and i have dated men taller, smaller, even different colour to me and it has never bothered me.

get out there, take the word by the scruff of your neck and do it.

AngryBadger

Je....look, how about just manning up, and if some women aren't attracted to you then maybe it's not the end of the world? Seriously, are you going for some kind of record in being pathetic? No-one respects anyone for being a "virgin" we can all pretend it secretly means something, but we know we're just bull****ting ourselves.

Man up. Decide who you want to be for yourself, and if you can't do that, well then boo-****ing-hoo...

arybvtcw0eolkf

AngryBadger wrote: »

Je....look, how about just manning up, and if some women aren't attracted to you then maybe it's not the end of the world? Seriously, are you going for some kind of record in being pathetic? No-one respects anyone for being a "virgin" we can all pretend it secretly means something, but we know we're just bull****ting ourselves.

Man up. Decide who you want to be for yourself, and if you can't do that, well then boo-****ing-hoo...

Having met you once I find that reply to the OP pathetic, and extremly unhelpful.

OP, I'm not extremly tall - I'm 6'2'' and 120kgs, and well I'm pretty confident in company and the company of women I do sometimes feel I stick out from the other lads so I understand a little of how your feeling.

But apart from your age and height we know nothing else about you, have you a busy social life, do you play a sport & what (if any) are your interests?, because we tend to meet our partners through shared persuits and if you don't tick any of the above boxes your playing with loaded dice.

I do wish you the best of luck, it can't be easy where you are (ie not having had a girl). But someday its gonna come knock'n and its the most fantastic time of your life - I wish you the very best for the future, seldom are any of us alone for the rest of our lives.

Nevyn

AngryBadger 1 week ban.

boris232

My wife is the same height as me (6' 4") and she always told me that she had no problems dating fellas even though she towered over them. I am certain the reverse is true.

Thornography

Im 6`5, And Iv had no problems with women, I especially go for the smaller women since it makes me feel taller lol. I like being tall I like being able to spot the roof of my girlfriends car in the parking lot when she forget where she left it, And I love driving her tiny car cause she gets to laugh at me for a bit about how ridiculous I look. But she would not have me any other way

Try build confidence in yourself, And then learn how to joke about it.

Thats what I did.

gagomes

I am 6"8 too and although I don't have much confidence and self-esteem and I understand quite well your concerns, because I used to think alike - everyone says lots of girl like guys of our size, but then they never show up from the caves. I had one girlfriend and have gone out with a girl, who ultimately fell in love for me (she was 5"11 btw). Have never really experienced this that most people are talking about, girls fancying taller guys, but I reckon not having enough self confidence/esteem is quite a turn off to most women if they don't get a chance to meet you and are just observing you from a safe distance.

My advices are to get yourself in the wild and get to know as much women as possible. Once they know you, they may get curious about you and puf f, when you least expected it, you're in the altar!

AnnieB82

CathyMoran wrote: »

I would have thought that there are a lot of girls who find tall men attractive - I know that I did. As the other posters are saying, you just need a bit more confidence. Oh, my first bf was 6ft 4in and I am 5ft 2in, actually most of them were well over 6ft.

I agree that height itself is probably not the real problem, but rather how you deal with it. I worked with a guy who's 6'8 also and he had a girlfriend of average height. As this guy was so tall he stood out and somehow seemed more approachable. I was actually good friends with him and sort of thought his tallness was cool. ( I definitely like tall men, and if I'm being honest I can be a bit shallow about the height thing)
I do agree condidence is very important, but the only thing I can say about that is that I lack a lot of confidence, as does my partner, and even though it's not ideal, even that wont stop you finding someone...

LegacyUser

Dear OP,

Take heed of what the previous posters have said and do not give up. By the sounds of it you have alot going for you. You just need to get out of that shell of yours. I was in your position, well the exact opposite. I am short 5' 6", mid 40s. I have had many trials and tribulations down through the years. I have a mentally handicapped son to look after too. Well to cut a long story short i am currently seeing this fantastic Latvian lady in her mid 20s and she is taller than me. I met her unexpectedly in a supermarket where she works a few months ago. I opened up, got chatting and after talking to her a few times asked her and took it from there. After a few weeks we made love for the first time and its fantastic.

I was single for a few years and now my life has turned around. I'm on top of the world. She is great with my son and my immediate family has taken to her well. OP, use your height to your advantage, not disadvantage. Get out more and get to know as many women as possible. Once they become curious, make your move. Good luck. Just relax and go with the flow