Hypnotherapy to lose feelings

sickpuppy32

Whats the best way to lose feelings? thinking hypnotherapy might work to? anyone any recommendations for a good hyponotherapist please pm me

the_dark_side

there are lots of self hypnosis downloads available online... I downloaded some using Bit Torrent last year. Some are good, but there are a few silly ones.. try the Golden Pages for hypnotherapists... what most will tell you is that you will need several sessions, its worth it though

MysticalSoul

I presume you are looking for ways to get rid of painful emotions? If so, there are no quick fixes - the only way is through it. Would you consider counselling/psychotherapy as an alternative?

sickpuppy32

trued it, did a lot of crying, didnt really do much for me to be honest. Situation is such I cant remove the cause of my pain from my life so i have to live with it. Think i'd function a lot better if I could bury some emotions so deep they'd get lost

papillon66

sickpuppy32 wrote: »

trued it, did a lot of crying, didnt really do much for me to be honest. Situation is such I cant remove the cause of my pain from my life so i have to live with it. Think i'd function a lot better if I could bury some emotions so deep they'd get lost

buried is an idea...but as any skeleton it might re-appear and you will be in the same road than today...as hard as that sounds confront those feeling and work with them instead of avoiding or hiding them-this would help I suppose in the long run...but fair enough sometimes we are not ready for it yet...not sure if this would help...but with time you learn to deal and overcome those feelings...sometimes we jsut need a little help to look at ourself in a different way

sickpuppy32

as i said i tried it to no help. Need to lose feelings of unrequited love. This is my only option i think

Wibbs

IMHO even if it worked it would be forced. I think of it this way; people often say you have to get over feelings, I say you have to go through them and that's hard. You may struggle to get through them and some of it may stick even when you get through it. If you are lucky and mindful(more the latter) these things that stick will be good lessons.

Certain things help. Focus is everything. Realise that even in extremis, you have some control. More than you think in fact. As I say it's all about the focus.

Now lets say you were walking down the street, your mind full of the object of your emotional stress. Now lets imagine you see a plane crash into the ground a few 100 meters away. Real opening episode of "Lost" type stuff. Destruction, flames the lot. What about your head space in that instant? Are you thinking about the person? Nope. You're thinking a huge amount of WTF!!!:eek: Your focus is shifted.

Now obviously an extreme example, but you can take that on board in more practical ways. Don't isolate yourself. That leads to the focus going inwards. The mind hates being bored and unstimulated, so if not getting good external stimuli will seek out any internal stimulation it can. People in extreme sensory isolation can even trip out and have hallucinations.

If you're wrestling with a consistent emotion such as unrequited love or breakup heartbreak, well it's a handy one for the mind to latch on. It's like in the absence of sex, people jerk off. I would say the emotional mind will do similar with the strong emotions like yours. Mental masturbation basically. Now it will scratch an itch but not in a good long lasting way and it can become addictive.

Then you can get into the self absorbed downward cycle. Again it's addictive too. Self exploration IMHO should only be considered thus when the rest of your world is along for the ride.

All the usual things people advise like getting out as much as you can, distracting yourself with going to the gym or getting new hobbies or going traveling are all spot on. They help shift the focus.

Realise also that this feeling will pass, unless you actively work on keeping it going. Now it is a strong feeling so you will find it hard to let go of it. Unless you replace it with other strong feelings and outlets. Think of it like giving up ciggies. It's hard. The body misses the "buzz". Some can just give up, but others rely on nicotine patches. Think of healthy distractions as emotional nicotine patches.

IMHO the mind wants to be healthy and unless there's an underlying pathology will seek out the healthy option in the long term if you let it. The sooner you start to help it the faster it will pass for you.

My 2 cents anyway.

AARRRGH

sickpuppy32 wrote: »

Need to lose feelings of unrequited love.

Could you give us the background story on the "unrequited love" so we can offer alternative suggestions?

I know someone who tried hypnotherapy (to help her deal with past abuse and anger issues) and found it to be a complete joke. Unforunately it seems a lot of hypnotherapists fancy themselves as magicians or are complete dumbasses/sleazebags. She shopped around and couldn't find anyone decent.

Otis Driftwood

Can I ask OP,why would you want to lose feelings?

We all have had crap things happen that we would rather forget but thats part of lifes experience.

Everything Ive ever gone through(and to be fair its VERY minor compared to what alot of people have been through),and every emotion I have ever felt has been a lesson learned for me and has left me better equipped to deal with probably anything I will ever encounter in my life.

Life can be hard but if you decide now to block out something,where will it stop?

You dont get a job you wanted - erase it.
You're dog died - erase it.
You stubbed my toe - erase it.

Im not being flippant here but if you dont take the rough with the smooth then you will never grow as a person and end up repeating the same mistakes over and over until you die.

Do you seriously want that?

If you do then maybe you should consider talking to a professional.

Good luck to you.

Dovers

Wibbs wrote: »

IMHO even if it worked it would be forced. I think of it this way; people often say you have to get over feelings, I say you have to go through them and that's hard. You may struggle to get through them and some of it may stick even when you get through it. If you are lucky and mindful(more the latter) these things that stick will be good lessons.

Certain things help. Focus is everything. Realise that even in extremis, you have some control. More than you think in fact. As I say it's all about the focus.

Now lets say you were walking down the street, your mind full of the object of your emotional stress. Now lets imagine you see a plane crash into the ground a few 100 meters away. Real opening episode of "Lost" type stuff. Destruction, flames the lot. What about your head space in that instant? Are you thinking about the person? Nope. You're thinking a huge amount of WTF!!!:eek: Your focus is shifted.

Now obviously an extreme example, but you can take that on board in more practical ways. Don't isolate yourself. That leads to the focus going inwards. The mind hates being bored and unstimulated, so if not getting good external stimuli will seek out any internal stimulation it can. People in extreme sensory isolation can even trip out and have hallucinations.

If you're wrestling with a consistent emotion such as unrequited love or breakup heartbreak, well it's a handy one for the mind to latch on. It's like in the absence of sex, people jerk off. I would say the emotional mind will do similar with the strong emotions like yours. Mental masturbation basically. Now it will scratch an itch but not in a good long lasting way and it can become addictive.

Then you can get into the self absorbed downward cycle. Again it's addictive too. Self exploration IMHO should only be considered thus when the rest of your world is along for the ride.

All the usual things people advise like getting out as much as you can, distracting yourself with going to the gym or getting new hobbies or going traveling are all spot on. They help shift the focus.

Realise also that this feeling will pass, unless you actively work on keeping it going. Now it is a strong feeling so you will find it hard to let go of it. Unless you replace it with other strong feelings and outlets. Think of it like giving up ciggies. It's hard. The body misses the "buzz". Some can just give up, but others rely on nicotine patches. Think of healthy distractions as emotional nicotine patches.

IMHO the mind wants to be healthy and unless there's an underlying pathology will seek out the healthy option in the long term if you let it. The sooner you start to help it the faster it will pass for you.

My 2 cents anyway.

I think this is really good advice here. I'm going through something similar myself and I can identify with a lot of whats being said. It really is about focus.

Eve_Dublin

Wibbs wrote: »

IMHO even if it worked it would be forced. I think of it this way; people often say you have to get over feelings, I say you have to go through them and that's hard. You may struggle to get through them and some of it may stick even when you get through it. If you are lucky and mindful(more the latter) these things that stick will be good lessons.

Certain things help. Focus is everything. Realise that even in extremis, you have some control. More than you think in fact. As I say it's all about the focus.

Now lets say you were walking down the street, your mind full of the object of your emotional stress. Now lets imagine you see a plane crash into the ground a few 100 meters away. Real opening episode of "Lost" type stuff. Destruction, flames the lot. What about your head space in that instant? Are you thinking about the person? Nope. You're thinking a huge amount of WTF!!!:eek: Your focus is shifted.

Now obviously an extreme example, but you can take that on board in more practical ways. Don't isolate yourself. That leads to the focus going inwards. The mind hates being bored and unstimulated, so if not getting good external stimuli will seek out any internal stimulation it can. People in extreme sensory isolation can even trip out and have hallucinations.

If you're wrestling with a consistent emotion such as unrequited love or breakup heartbreak, well it's a handy one for the mind to latch on. It's like in the absence of sex, people jerk off. I would say the emotional mind will do similar with the strong emotions like yours. Mental masturbation basically. Now it will scratch an itch but not in a good long lasting way and it can become addictive.

Then you can get into the self absorbed downward cycle. Again it's addictive too. Self exploration IMHO should only be considered thus when the rest of your world is along for the ride.

All the usual things people advise like getting out as much as you can, distracting yourself with going to the gym or getting new hobbies or going traveling are all spot on. They help shift the focus.

Realise also that this feeling will pass, unless you actively work on keeping it going. Now it is a strong feeling so you will find it hard to let go of it. Unless you replace it with other strong feelings and outlets. Think of it like giving up ciggies. It's hard. The body misses the "buzz". Some can just give up, but others rely on nicotine patches. Think of healthy distractions as emotional nicotine patches.

IMHO the mind wants to be healthy and unless there's an underlying pathology will seek out the healthy option in the long term if you let it. The sooner you start to help it the faster it will pass for you.

My 2 cents anyway.

VErrrrrrrry interesting.Absolutely spot on! This makes a huge amount of sense...hits the nail on the head in understanding why the distraction is so important when you're going through something like the OP is going through.The mind needs to be occupied and stimulated so it won't venture to the dark side. Without sounding too blonde, too much thinking about your situation will drive you nuts. Been there, got the t-shirt. I was verging on insanity when I went through a break-up 'till I copped the hell on and got busy living outside of my self-absorbed mind with the help of a firm kick up the ar*e by friends. It's the ONLY way...and it is hypnosis in the sense that you're keeping your mind and body so busy with other activites and stimuli, that the issue becomes less and less of a big deal 'till eventually you can turn around one day and you can't believe you were so bad. I can actually laugh about the state I was in back then....jaysus...

People always give this advice when someone goes through a break-up or become the "victim" of unrequited love...people who have been through it already so they know what they're talking about...listen to the experts...it's the ONLY tried and tested means to get over this.

But don't be afraid to feel what you're feeling either...try and talk about it with friends and maybe try another councillor...bottling up is a temporary solution and the emotions WILL come back at you tenfold.