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Can't be happy for ex

  • 27-05-2009 12:39am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    my bf broke up with me a few months ago and i suffered quite badly cos of it (and still am actually) but i'm not sure that he has suffered at all. we both were to blame for the break up so i accept my part but i still love him and think i want him back. however i'm dying for him to have some bad luck so that he will suffer and surely i can't feel as strongly as i think i do if i want him to be unhappy? hes gone for a great promotion recently in work and i'm hoping he won't get it cos that would really p1ss him off and give me some satisfaction.
    its like an eye for an eye, but do i still really love him if i'm hoping for misfortune for him?


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  • #2
    The Real B-man
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 3,740 Mod ✭✭✭✭The Real B-man


    Unregistered wrote: »
    my bf broke up with me a few months ago and i suffered quite badly cos of it (and still am actually) but i'm not sure that he has suffered at all. we both were to blame for the break up so i accept my part but i still love him and think i want him back. however i'm dying for him to have some bad luck so that he will suffer and surely i can't feel as strongly as i think i do if i want him to be unhappy? hes gone for a great promotion recently in work and i'm hoping he won't get it cos that would really p1ss him off and give me some satisfaction.
    its like an eye for an eye, but do i still really love him if i'm hoping for misfortune for him?

    You need Help you are Jealous of your EX Boyfriend! and wish him Misfortune! Maybe hes Happy he Broke up with you and his life is going well! Get a Grip OP thats a Vicous Selfish Obsession you have there!.


  • #3
    ellie1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 360 ✭✭ellie1


    When we feel hurt or rejected, I think its quite normal to want to attribute blame somewhere. We are often so deeply wounded that we want the ex to feel the same way. When we see them get on with their lives and appearing to be doing great, of course we are going to feel angry and wish them badness and thinkvengeful thoughts.

    If you look deep within yourself, you dont really wish him badness but only to feel the level of hurt that you feel. Start concentrating on yourself and stop worrying about what is going on in his life.


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