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I need relationship advice - help please?

  • 25-05-2009 10:25pm
    #1
    Stewie83
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭


    Hi All,

    I'll keep this short and sweet. I kissed a girl i have know for a few years now through her sister. She was just finished with here boyfriend st the time 2 months ago.

    We have been meeting up every few days going out to eat, socialising and for drives, texting and the usual stuff.

    **She told me that she met her ex out in Cork city last Saurday night and guess what they had brake up sex? what i know i never had it or heard of it. To top it all off she still gos out with "the lads" including her ex. He has been teting her and they still talk on the phone. She says they wont get back and she has no intentions of it..

    She is cold with me sometimes, not even kissimg me then all nice then that confused look.. god my head is melted.

    she says she likes me i tell her all the time i like her and she says i like you the odd time with a few glasses of wine!

    I treat her really well. Is that it?

    Ladies and Gents any ideas for a lost guy here?


Comments

  • #2
    legend365
    Closed Accounts Posts: 460 ✭✭legend365


    You probably already know this...

    ...but shes no good for you man.


    I wouldn't waste my time with her.


  • #3
    McFearless
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 128 ✭✭McFearless


    you can do better,i get out of there sharpish!!


  • #4
    zeslim
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22 ✭zeslim


    It sounds like she's playing it fast and loose with your feelings, which isn't a good thing when establishing a relationship. I don't know how long you've been seeing her, but if she slept with her ex last weekend, she's not finished dealing with that relationship just yet and therefore really isn't ready to start one with you. For the moment, I'd say leave her to it.


  • #5
    lehcar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36 ✭lehcar


    She's just not that into you. Move on.


  • #6
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Sounds like it is still too soon after her last relationship.
    Either conciously or not she is playing you.

    For your own sake and sanity think you need to chalk this one up and move on before you get even more hurt.


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  • #7
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Scrape her off as a waste of your emotional focus and time.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #8
    themacdaddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 756 ✭✭✭themacdaddy


    No disrespect mate but I think your her rebound guy, She is using you to get over her previous relationship although that doesn't seem to be going too well! If you have any respect for yourself I would advise you to move on.


  • #9
    domcq
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 171 ✭✭domcq


    Nicely phrased Wibbs.


  • #10
    Slow Motion
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,831 ✭✭✭Slow Motion


    Sorry OP I tend to agree with the rest of the Jury here. You could sit down and talk to her, tell her the situation is not on and doing your head in and that some decisions need to be made. I don't think you will like what they will be if you do this but at least it will be clear and you can move on!


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