GF's family... I can't stand them!!

LegacyUser

i am with my gf now over a year (she's 17, im 18) and i absolutely love her to bits... i think she is perfect in every way and i love every minute i spend with her... BUT there is one problem, her family.. specifically her parents.
they are the sooooo controlling. she honestly cant so much as leave the house without having to ask. even things so little as us going to the cinema is never certain as she might not be allowed! i know what your going to say now and that is that they dont know me well enough and that they need to know they can trust me?? well that is definitly not the problem as i practically live there!!!! im there probobly twice every weekend for the last year and a bit and iv been told that they are mad about me...
as you can imagine this seriously limits our sex life... we cant get out of the house in order to do it! we'v only ever had sex twice.. im just seriously getting sick of this protectiveness..!!!!!!!!!

so my question is has anyone got any advice on what i should do???? and also has anyone got idea's on how we could manage to get a bit of alone time as it is SERIOUSLY gettin to annoy the both of us very much at this stage???
thanks in advance:D

LegacyUser

ANYONE gna try help me????::O:O:O

Jonathan

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so my question is has anyone got any advice on what i should do???? and also has anyone got idea's on how we could manage to get a bit of alone time as it is SERIOUSLY gettin to annoy the both of us very much at this stage???
thanks in advance:D

Might be stating the obvious, but go away on holidays together?

LegacyUser

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i am with my gf now over a year (she's 17, im 18) and i absolutely love her to bits... i think she is perfect in every way and i love every minute i spend with her... BUT there is one problem, her family.. specifically her parents.
they are the sooooo controlling. she honestly cant so much as leave the house without having to ask. even things so little as us going to the cinema is never certain as she might not be allowed! i know what your going to say now and that is that they dont know me well enough and that they need to know they can trust me?? well that is definitly not the problem as i practically live there!!!! im there probobly twice every weekend for the last year and a bit and iv been told that they are mad about me...
as you can imagine this seriously limits our sex life... we cant get out of the house in order to do it! we'v only ever had sex twice.. im just seriously getting sick of this protectiveness..!!!!!!!!!

so my question is has anyone got any advice on what i should do???? and also has anyone got idea's on how we could manage to get a bit of alone time as it is SERIOUSLY gettin to annoy the both of us very much at this stage???
thanks in advance:D

she is only 17 so understandably her parents are controlling she is not yet an adult, your only 18 still plenty of time for you to get up to anything you want.

if you are really gung ho about it all move out of your parents house and get your own place problem solved.

shellyboo

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i am with my gf now over a year (she's 17, im 18) and i absolutely love her to bits... i think she is perfect in every way and i love every minute i spend with her... BUT there is one problem, her family.. specifically her parents.
they are the sooooo controlling. she honestly cant so much as leave the house without having to ask. even things so little as us going to the cinema is never certain as she might not be allowed!

She's 17, she's still legally a child, her parents can still tell her what to do.

When she's 18, she can tell them where to go - but if she's living in their house, she might have to play by their rules. Unfortunately, if you want to be treated like an adult you have to live like an adult, and that means moving out and getting your own place.

Oh The Humanity

Hm, at 17 though they should be allowing her a bit more autonomy.

But OP, until she is 18 I guess you dont have much of a choice.

I remember telling my Mother at that age I was going to an all night party, she tried to say no, I informed her that I wasn't asking her permission I was just letting her know so she wouldn't be up all night worrying and off I went!

Your girlfriend is going to have to break a few eggs to make omelettes. She is more of a young adult now than a child really and her parents should not be controlling her every move.

You would do well to stay the hell out of it though. Its your girlfriends job to rebel and show the parents the new boundaries.

If they get wind that you are the instigator of this then you are toast so hang in there.

How does your girlfriend feel about all this? Is she happy or is she starting to feel stifled too?

Also, listen summer is on the way, weather is supposed to be gorgeous so why not go off for the day somewhere in the country ......let nature take its course!

Whatever you do though, dont get her up the duff !!!!

Sorry, i'll get me coat....

LegacyUser

op here again..
well obviously we cant go on holidays together because she wouldnt be allowed!!!!
ok i understand totally where ye all are coming from about her only being 17 but as the previous poster said, she should be allowed some bit of freedom...

my gf hates it too btw.. its not just me like.. its getting so bad now that we are considering just doing it in the house which is very risky!!!
im not asking her parents to totally let go of their daughter by any means all we want is a little bit of alone time every now and again!!! is that so much to want!!!!

what did ye all do to get alone when ye wer our age???
thanks again!!:D

Irishcrx

Well I wouldn't suggest doing it in the house if your caught the girl will never see the light of day again , also her parents are probably controlling because they don't want you knocking there daughter up at 17.(God I must be getting old)...

Just be carefull etc, when I was your age we would usually go to house partys , or outside places where nobody would be to have sex and of course the obvious one...GET A CAR!

LegacyUser

That one's easy peasy dude.

1) Save up your pcoket money (or whatever it is you crazy kids get these days)
2) Go into Argos
3) Buy a cheap tent and 2 cheap sleeping bags
4) Call round to your missus early on a saturday morning (minus the capming gear obv) and take her "hillwalking" "hiking" "swimming in the sea" "reading stories to sik kids at the hospital" "spending time with the elderly [etc etc insert wholesome activity here]
5) Get a bus / drive / cycle out into the countryside
6) Get 'back to nature'

CapedCrusader

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That one's easy peasy dude.

1) Save up your pcoket money (or whatever it is you crazy kids get these days)
2) Go into Argos
3) Buy a cheap tent and 2 cheap sleeping bags
4) Call round to your missus early on a saturday morning (minus the capming gear obv) and take her "hillwalking" "hiking" "swimming in the sea" "reading stories to sik kids at the hospital" "spending time with the elderly [etc etc insert wholesome activity here]
5) Get a bus / drive / cycle out into the countryside
6) Get 'back to nature'

Your tent, your rules OP :-)

LegacyUser

i know how ya feel bout the whole "controlling parents" thing...im 20 and my GF is just turning 18...and her mam constantly phones her and wants her home and all that stuff...when we go out to hang out or stuff she always has to be in by like 11...and therefore she wants to spend all her time with her friends when she gets the chance so we miss out on a lot of quality time together...... and now shes going away for 3 months with her family and shes not gonna be back until right before we start back in college

i dont really think theres anything you or her can do about it...her parents are controlling and thats that...but deep down you know that they only have her best interests at heart...maybe if they could see that its not doing her any favours they might lighten up a bit...has she ever confronted them about this and ask why they are like this?