Gay Experience ?

LegacyUser

Hi All,

Ok here goes... I am a 24 yr old woman and very much in love with my bf. The thing is I have always wanted to have sex with a woman.. I dont think I am gay possibly bi I suppose? I was thinking to maybe involve my bf but not really into a threesome as I couldn't watch him with another woman, selfish but thats how I am.

So would love your opinion on this ? Would it be strange to ask my bf if it would be possible if I did and have him involved in someway like watch and then be with me ? I am not too sure how he would feel about this... Is it strange for a woman who is madly in love with her bf to fantaise about being with a woman?

Any opinions would be great thanks

AngryBadger

Only way you're going to know is to talk to your bf. How long are ye together? And has this always been on your mind or is it a sudden and new yearning?

LegacyUser

The only way I can think about this is to imagine my bf asking me if he could have sex with another guy and I could watch. Sorry but I would be gutted that he even asked. So my advice is that its the same as asking if you can cheat with a whole other can of worms included....that to me has no room in a relationship. Stick to fantasy's I think, and actually, to fantasize about that is pretty normal, I do too sometimes.

Taltos

Agreed with last poster.

What is the difference to you cheating on him with another woman as opposed to another guy.
Cheating is cheating.

Think you gotta get to the root of that. If you are in a committed monogomous relationship and you have an urge to stray - then it is time to move on; split up - have your fun and see what you want to do after that.

If your relationship though is more open than that - then talk to your bf to get his input. He also might be having fantasies about having sex with another woman.

petethebrick

The bottom line is that you'd be asking him if he minded you shagging someone else. Doesn't matter if it is a guy or girl. Go ahead if you want but don't come on here crying if you find yourself dumped soon after I reckon.
Are you sure you're happy in the relationship, you shouldn't feel like you want to do something like that if you are. Unless you are gay maybe, in that case you have some sorting out to do. I don't really believe in the concept of bisexual. I think people are deep down either straight or gay but sometimes have sexual fantasies involving the other sex. It's no excuse for shagging around though

Dzien

Are you absolutely joking me. I don't understand what all these, split up immediately replies are all about. Its very likely he will absolutely LOVE the idea of this and will consider himself to be "living the dream". If you're that honest and open about your sexuality he must that love about you anyway. As long as its not someone you're emotionally attached to or have been wanting to start a relationship with there should be no problems.

Suggest it, I think you'll have an absolute ball of fun and remain committed to each other regardless.

Go for it!!!

(ps, I speak from experience, not wild dreaming)

Otis Driftwood

Its a common mis-conception that all men like the idea of a threesome,particularly if you are in a relationship with one of the females involved.

In theory,its great.2 girls with eachother,happy days right?

Wrong.

Every person is different.A past girlfriend indicated on a couple of occasions that she had always fantisised about having a threesome and Im sure if I had pressed her on it then it could have happened but the fact is I couldnt get my head around her having sex with someone else,whether I was involved or not.

I would still view it as cheating and alot of blokes would look at it the same way.

OP,if you are serious about this you need to talk to your BF about it and get his thoughts on the subject.He might love the idea of you been with another woman,then again he may not.

LegacyUser

OP there are MANY couples that have healthy, loving committed relationships that are willing to explore their sexual horizons either together or separately.

Your partner may be one of these. You should raise the issue with him.

However, I do think it would be VERY selfish of you to expect him just to watch and not be involved. Why would it be just ok for you to have new sexual experiences and not him.

You need to sit down and discuss this with him openly. Perhaps have the two of you browse a swingers site one evening when you're having a sexual evening together and talking about fantasies.

LegacyUser

Hi Op

About an hour ago, I posted my feelings to another website where you can vent anon.

I love my OH too, Im 25 next month but, my god, the thoughts of being with a woman again drives me mad with lust.

My OH knows I fooled around when younger, but he doesnt know that I still get little crushes on girls I see and that a female body really does it for me. I suppose Im bi myself, but I love him and I love men and I cant see myself really going for just one sex. A kiss with a girl is amazing, so soft, but sex can be alot different, I just enjoyed fooling around with girls tbh, not full on relationships. I would love to enjoy fooling around with a girl again but Im in a relationship and I wouldnt particularly like to have a threesome.

You should figure some things out first before you talk to your boyfriend, but the answer doesnt come easy. I still somedays, get so confused as to what I want. Being pulled in both directions, by hormones that want it all.

coadyj

woo woo woo, hold the phone,

You want to have sex with another girl, in front of him. You want to make him watch a live hot lesbian porno staring you. I think you need to ask him, as a guy I'm pretty sure he is going to say yes.

Your not the first girl to have these fantasies and you wouldn't be the first to fulfill them

coadyj

nedtheshed wrote: »

Its a common mis-conception that all men like the idea of a threesome,particularly if you are in a relationship with one of the females involved.

In theory,its great.2 girls with eachother,happy days right?

Wrong.

Every person is different.A past girlfriend indicated on a couple of occasions that she had always fantisised about having a threesome and Im sure if I had pressed her on it then it could have happened but the fact is I couldnt get my head around her having sex with someone else,whether I was involved or not.

I would still view it as cheating and alot of blokes would look at it the same way.

OP,if you are serious about this you need to talk to your BF about it and get his thoughts on the subject.He might love the idea of you been with another woman,then again he may not.

I think you should start a new thread called, did i miss the opportunity of a life time??? seriously are you mo or something

shellyboo

coadyj wrote: »

You want to have sex with another girl, in front of him. You want to make him watch a live hot lesbian porno staring you. I think you need to ask him, as a guy I'm pretty sure he is going to say yes.

Your tastes aren't representative of the entire male population.


OP, all you can do is ask! You're certainly not the first woman to have these sorts of fantasies, and plenty of men would love the idea... so I don't see the harm in putting it out there. If you're really scared, maybe you could introduce it in a jokey way, just to see what his reaction is? If it's something that turns him on, you'll know you can approach it in a serious way later.

Xiney

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legend365

ok lets take MALE A and MALE B

If you ask MALE A about it. If your happy to have sex with another girl hes gonna be happy too. As in you'd have to involve him too. Ye cant expect him just to except that you want other women. He's gonna feel abit inadequate if he's not involved.

MALE B will be the type who sees it as cheating. Crazy mofo that he is!

Otis Driftwood

legend365 wrote: »

ok lets take MALE A and MALE B

If you ask MALE A about it. If your happy to have sex with another girl hes gonna be happy too. As in you'd have to involve him too. Ye cant expect him just to except that you want other women. He's gonna feel abit inadequate if he's not involved.

MALE B will be the type who sees it as cheating. Crazy mofo that he is!

Why would he be crazy?

If your GF said she wanted to have sex with another bloke would you be ok with it?

There is virtually no difference,your GF is sexually intimate with another person.

End of story.

Dont get me wrong,if the opportunity ever arises that I get a proposition like this from 2 women that Im not involved with you better believe Im going for it however in the context of a relationship its just not for me.

coadyj

shellyboo wrote: »

Your tastes aren't representative of the entire male population.


OP, all you can do is ask! You're certainly not the first woman to have these sorts of fantasies, and plenty of men would love the idea... so I don't see the harm in putting it out there. If you're really scared, maybe you could introduce it in a jokey way, just to see what his reaction is? If it's something that turns him on, you'll know you can approach it in a serious way later.

true, just any heterosexual male, between 13-70

Xiney

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