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I just can't stop!!!

  • 21-05-2009 12:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have been seeing someone for a few months, they have now said that they just want to be friends, i Know I cant do this as i'm crazy about them and don't wanna lose them.....I've tried a couple of times to cut contact, but I just can't seem to do it..I know its what I need to do but I just don't seem to possess the will power, can anybody help???
    Before anybody says it i cant delete number etc. as i know it by heart already, as much as id not like to!


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  • #2
    boomerang 143
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13 ✭boomerang 143


    I know how hard it is to cut all contact as I am in the same place although in my case I was with my boyfriend nearly 4 years.
    All I can say to you is you have to think you may actually be doing more harm than good. If there is any doubt in his mind if you keep hasselling him he will withdraw further. You need to find something else to keep you busy, this will also make you more attractive to this guy as if you can show him what a great time you are having without him he might realise what he is missing.
    Keep the chin up and remember you are much better than this


  • #3
    pimbeche
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35 ✭pimbeche


    Hi OP , just to get an idea , what do you mean by "seeing someone for a few months", have you been dating as boyfriend and girlfriend?


  • #4
    mollybird
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,053 ✭✭✭mollybird


    been there done that and have the t shirt. what helped me in the end was that he moved over to the states so i don't see him anymore. i found it extreamly difficult to not talk to the person i was half involved with. and it went on for nearly 4 years. we had no will power and i knew his number off by heart. it didn't help we had one or two mutual friends.

    so ya good luck with that. its hard but you do need to try and move on.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    pimbeche wrote: »
    Hi OP , just to get an idea , what do you mean by "seeing someone for a few months", have you been dating as boyfriend and girlfriend?

    Hi, Not bf and gf but , in all but name if you know what i mean, I kknow that the only real hope for me to move on is to stop contact, but i can't even bring myself to ask them to stop contacting me.....i really have fallen hard this time and thought that it could be omething great, im still not sure if its finished completely as he's said that he does like me...also keeps asking "why do you like me" as if to say he;s not good enough for me, boy how wrong that is!!! i'd move heaven and earth right now to be with him


  • #6
    pimbeche
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35 ✭pimbeche


    Hi OP, although you dont want to hear this, you just need to act "aloof" . I know you probably cant stop thinking about him but you need to force yourself to do other things. If he contacts you then fair enough but dont initiate contact yourself.

    You will see that as time goes on , you will feel much better , youll be able to get a little perspective ( maybe even look back with hindsight and think- what did i see in him??) and it could have an affect on him aswell, if he sees you acting "cool" about it, he might miss the attention and come back to you..... Hope this helps . Good luck


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You'll see the post 'Can't Cut Contact' that was posted yesterday - I'm the OP. I have to post there to thank those people for their kind advice. Read what they have said to me - it is very helpful. I've taken steps to stop me from contacting him - I've uninstalled skype from my computer, not just deleted him as a contact. I've a new found determination not to contact him. It would be easy to just install skype again but I'M NOT GOING TO. Another thing I started at the beginning of april was a calander - I mark off all the days I manage not to contact him with a big red mark. It's working a bit.

    I know its hard when you know their number by heart - we all know or OHs numbers off by heart. I suppose it's self control but .... if, like me, you have none then do like i've done - keep on contacting him until he tells you literally to 'f**k off' and 'leave me alone'. That is a hard pill to swallow. You'll drive him so far away that he won't even want to know you or know about you and believe me, this will become a reality for you too if you keep contacting him. As tough as it is - we can't make someone love us. If they don't, they don't. And remember .... if someone you did't have feelings for romantically persisted in contacting you over and over again you would hate it.

    Good luck with resisting fellow semi stalker :L :L :L thats just a joke ;)


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