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Don't want to lose her

  • 20-05-2009 1:45am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    OH broke up with me tonight. Only have myself to blame though, basically a bit over a year ago I kissed someone else,now this wasn't a drunk kiss or anything I new what I was doing. Now this is a one time thing and I regretted it straight after but never told her. Now when we first got together I was still friendly with my ex. After a month or two together I was in the pub with the ex and they kissed me now I pulled away and told the OH that night about it and that was that. Anyways I never told her about this other kiss last year. At the time we were always fighting and in a really bad place but I knew it was wrong straight away and knew I didn't want to lose her and knew after all the fighting we'd done at the time that would have pushed us over the edge so I didn't tell her.

    Since then we've been great I really do love her. Anyways yesterday it all came out about the kiss and she left me. I'm devestated however I understand I only have myself to blame but I really don't want to lose her. She's the one and I'd do anything to keep us together. The main problem is shes also thinking back was the kiss a few years ago with the ex really forced on me by the ex or am I lieing and have I been with any other girls. Now these are the only two times anything like this has happened and the ex one I really did pull away and not kiss back but I understand how hard it must be for her to believe this.


    Anyways back on topic I really love this girl and don't want to lose her but I don't know what to do some advice is really needed please.

    Thanks for reading and hopefully helping me keep the best thing in my life.


Comments

  • #2
    togster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,931 ✭✭✭togster


    There is not much you can do.

    Leave it for a while and see what happens. Real love is understanding. Understand that she is hurt and leave her be for a bit and hopefully some day she too will understand that you do indeed love her.


  • #3
    lifelonglufc
    Closed Accounts Posts: 73 ✭✭lifelonglufc


    Hey OP, having being in a similar but not exactly the same situation theres not much I can say you can do to be honest!

    You've made a fairly big mistake, but that's not just kissing another girl, it's the fact that you kept it a secret. I know in hindsight its easier to say you should have told her straight away, but you should have if you really love her in my opinion.

    Apart from apologize and try to clarify exactly what happened I think you're gonna have to sweat this one out, the balls in her court and whatever happens now is probably entirely in her hands.

    But hey we all make mistakes OP, experience is the name I give to my mistakes! Just don't let it drag you down too far, and focus on the hope that things will get better!


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