no strings?

LegacyUser

met this lad a few months back while travelling, we hung out for a month, hooked up for two weeks. he was dead keen on me, i thought he was alright, great body, but was coming out of a relationship and told him more than once i wasnt interested in relationships....made it quite clear, painfully for him, that it was just casual for me.

since then, we've kept in touch via email (about six months). im thinking of going to the UK to see my friend in the summer, and wouldnt mind hooking up again. he's nice enough, **** hot body, and wouldnt mind a bit of fun;) since splitting with my partner a few months ago, i havent gone near anyone, as i dont want one nights..or relationships....i know we've got chemistry, and i'm safe with him.....but that's as far as it goes for me. he's often wrote how he loves hearing from me, and i havent responded in kind, keepign it friendly...

so, should i go, i've made it clear where i stand, surely if he's not ok with that, he shoudl cut contact if he's getting attached? or am i being unfair by staying in touch knowign how he feels? he's a nice bloke, i dont want to hurt him but it's just a bit of fun/physical for me.....

AngryBadger

I think going could be a huge mistake.

He's clearly more interested in you than you in him, which means it's highly unlikely that anything that happens will be "casual fun" to him.

Not that you're in any way responsible for that, he's a big boy and you're not there to hold his hand, but if that is the way it goes you'll find yourself abroad dealing with the fallout on your holiday.

Not an ideal situation.

AARRRGH

I don't think you're being unfair, but I understand your concern.

Personally I would not be with someone if I felt they were going to get hurt, even though I understand they are sort of choosing to get hurt by ignoring your "nothing will come of this" talk...