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Lost attraction?

  • 17-05-2009 9:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,
    Me and my girlfriend have been going out 10 months now and we get on great. We're both 17 and because of school we only get to see each other maybe once every weekend.

    Over the last month or so she just doesn't seem as interested which i know after the first few months things begin to get more settled but she doesn't seem to miss me as much and the main thing that was bothering me is that recently she just doesn't seem to wanna kiss me.

    We rarely get that much time alone but for the first few months we were going out whenever we could we were all over each other, if it was sneaking off or whatever.
    She's very paranoid about people liking her and one mutual "friend" told her she was taking me away from him and we hardly saw eachother anymore (me and the other guy), which was hardly true especially since he's in my school, a few months ago.

    Anyway she was very hurt and as a consequence wouldn't be "coupley" if we were with anyone since which meant we were only close when we were alone(which can be pretty rare cause she loves being with friends) which meant not being that close really. It just kinda seems like that has transfered to alone time too now though.

    Anyway she just doesn't seem to wanna kiss me or be intimate that much anymore and if she is it feels kinda like she doesn't want it that much, shes just trying to keep me happy. She still likes cuddling and curling up together..

    I asked her about it and she said it doesn't seem like she misses me as much cause she's used to it from a previous boyfriend who lived far away and they only saw each aout once a month. And that sometimes she just doesn't feel like kissing me which is fair enough its not like i ever force her whether she does or doesn't want to. But basically the thing that was bothering me was how she doesn't seem to really enjoy being intimate with me whenever she is now..
    I'm still quite confused.
    Thanks for any comments:)


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  • #2
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    I really really don't want to say this. But it might need to be said. So I'm sorry. I really am.


    I've had 2 serious girlfriends in my life and with each of them have had, sadly, 2 break-ups. The prelude to all 4 break-ups between these 2 girls was always exactly what you described above. Lack of physical intimacy, emotional nonchalance and decreased alone time. I'm not saying that it's what's going on with you but it's happened to me 4 times. Don't be overly pessimistic but... be prepared.

    Sorry. :(


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