lonely and frustrated.....

LegacyUser

dunno is it because im hungover all day today or what the reason is, but just really depressed today. broke up with gf of 5 years about 9 months ago now. 9 months on, and im hating being single. have been with a few girls, went out with someone for a month or so but at the moment nothing serious is going on in the relationship front and its really getting me down. this time last year i was looking for a house with the gf, my life had a solid direction, i was very happy and going out with someone that i was mad about. now my life is going in a direction i had never really planned. im being positive about everything and i know it can be exciting doing new things you hadnt planned, but if im being totally honest im not happy. i liked my life this time last year, things were going well on all fronts. they still are i suppose except now im single and doing things on my own rather than with someone. the worst thing is, when i meet girls now i compare them to my ex and no one comes close to her. im angry and hurt at her cause she finished it and she has now moved on and is seeing someone else but i also know she didnt want to hurt me too and is not a bad person. she has moved on, in reality i havent. im trying so hard but i still miss having a relationship so much and the things that came with it.

so what i wanna know is, is there anyone else who has been in similar situation. i mean its 9 months for god sake, i should be over all this....but at times it really still hurts. she has gone yet i am still letting her play a part in my life as i havent met anyone who i really like or who comes close to what i had with her. how do i get out of this rut and move on for good.....

tolteq

I have to say I feel the same way sometimes.

I think one tends to get stuck into a rut, and not just with r/ships, but with career and diverse things like hobbys.


Its hard when ur with someone and they are great and then you miss them when they are gone.

One thing I learned when doing my psychology degree was that if you want your circumstances to change, you have to get out of the comfort zone. Just think. Your thinking about "her" all the time, and comparing the new to what you had with her. This is not good

Ask yourself this question. Where were you in your life when you met her. It happened to you once. You met this great girl. She was out there waiting for you. Whats to say that this couldnt happen again and with somebody else! Move on and live your life!

smk89

I feel the same. I broke up with my gf a few weeks ago after suffering from a 9 month depression and since then ive been happy. Its a wierd feeling but it feels almost hollow. As if im almost lying to myself.
She still plays upon my mind sometimes and it annoys me (i hate myself when I check her facebook).
I guess you never get over someone no matter how hard you try. But they'll never get over you either. Everyone puts on a front and even though they might seem to have moved on they probably haven't. Besides do you really want to forget that part of your life?

LegacyUser

dude, i'm over 2 years split up with my ex... and i'm still not fully over her! and the crazy part is, i broke up with her!

i had to let her go cause, for some reason, i didn't fully love her...

she wasn't irish... stunning, intilengent.. ticked so many boxes... it's crazy, but i still can't stop comparing... as it's kind of anoying that girls with half her beauty are so far up their ass here... ah well... i'm my own worst enemy, and need to just get over this.

bit of advice, don't stay in touch! ... there's plenty in this crappy boat, but i do think it'll be all ok with time. good luck